DEAR ABBY: What can I do about a child I see in an automobile who is hanging out the window when she passes my house? The child is around 4 years old. Today when I saw the little girl, the only parts of her in the car were her lower legs and feet. Her mother, father and grandmother allow her to do this.
DEAR BILLY GRAHAM: I grew up believing that it didnt take much to make God angry at me, and I always needed to be on my best behavior or he might do something bad to me. But my cousin says Im wrong and that God loves us and treats us kindly no matter what we do. Which of us is right? T.M.
DEAR ABBY: As a child, I was sexually, physically and mentally abused. As an adult, I suffered several miscarriages, and two of my children died as infants. I have two living children, ages 9 and 16. It should be no surprise that I turned to food for comfort; I ate myself to a whopping 420 pounds.
DEAR MISS MANNERS: How would one interpret an invitation that states, This is an adult-oriented event. Chaperoned children are welcome?
DEAR BILLY GRAHAM: Our church went heavily into debt to build our new building, but now our pastor has left, several families are drifting away, and were having a hard time making the mortgage payments. Does the Bible say anything about borrowing lots of money to build a church? K.R.
DEAR ABBY: Still Alive in San Diego said she reads the obituaries every day and feels somehow disappointed when she doesnt see a name she recognizes. She asked if it was weird, and you told her yes, that it seemed like a lack of empathy.
DEAR BILLY GRAHAM: My fiance and I deeply love each other, but we cant decide where to get married. His family belongs to one denomination and my family belongs to another, and, of course, they each want us to get married in their church. How can we keep everybody happy? R.O.
DEAR ABBY: My 13-year-old daughter, Lizzie, continues to talk to a 14-year-old boy who is very controlling and abusive. I made her stop talking to him, took away her cellphone privileges and tried to show her that she was going to wind up very hurt.
DEAR MISS MANNERS: I feel intimidated and insulted (perhaps assaulted) by everyone and their cameras. Everywhere I go lately, everybody is taking pictures with their cameras and phones. Its a constant barrage.
DEAR BILLY GRAHAM: My sister claims shes been saved, but I dont understand what shes talking about. Our family always went to church and tried to do whats right. But now shes acting like were misguided or something. Whats going on? J.D.
DEAR ABBY: Im a single mother of a beautiful 2-year-old daughter. I have always pictured myself as a mom of four little princesses. When I fantasized about having children, I imagined fairy tales, ballet, cheerleading, dress-up, tea parties all girl things.
DEAR MISS MANNERS: We have moved to a small town in a popular wine-growing region, and our next-door neighbor is a well-known winemaker. We invited him and his wife over for dinner, and I shared a bottle of one of my favorite (and not inexpensive) wines that I have been collecting for years.
DEAR BILLY GRAHAM: I know teenagers often rebel against their parents, but I admit I went overboard and have been a rebel ever since. We have two children now, and Im scared because I realize I dont have any idea how to be a good father. J.M.
DEAR ABBY: Before my ex-husband and I were married, I became pregnant with his baby. We decided together that we werent ready for the responsibility and made the mutual decision to end the pregnancy early in the first trimester. We did marry eventually and had a baby girl who is now in college.
DEAR BILLY GRAHAM: My parents got divorced when I was 8, and it was such a traumatic time for me that I vowed Id never get divorced myself. But now my marriage looks like its headed for the rocks. I cant believe this is happening. What did I do wrong? V.L.
DEAR ABBY: I have been single for five years. I recently reconnected with a man I lost contact with 13 years ago. We went out a few times and it was wonderful. Out of curiosity, I began checking him out online, starting with his mother, who he had mentioned was a surgeon. When I could find no information on her, I started looking up other things.
DEAR BILLY GRAHAM: How can I know whether or not a group is a cult? A woman in my office keeps trying to get me to go with her to her religious assembly, but I dont know anything about it. I didnt come from a religious family, but I know I need God. L.H.
DEAR ABBY: My wife of 45 years is having an online affair with a man who is a former business client. I found out when she inadvertently left an email message open on her laptop. Her phone records confirm daily long-distance conversations, as well. Although I know they have never met personally, they plan to meet during a weekend convention at a hotel in his hometown next month.
DEAR MISS MANNERS: A college friend asked me to be a part of her wedding not technically in the wedding party, but in a challenging category of more than guest and less than bridesmaid that I like to refer to as JV string bridesmaid.
DEAR BILLY GRAHAM: My aunt gave me a book for Christmas about astrology, and how to tell the future from the stars. Shes into things like that big time, but my mother says I shouldnt even open the book. I promised her Id ask what you think. D.C.
DEAR ABBY: Should I tell my boss that more than a few people have come to me asking if he is fooling around with a young woman here in the office? He is married; she is not. They spend a lot of time together just visiting, laughing and obviously flirting. They have also been seen coming and going together, having lunch together every day, etc.
DEAR BILLY GRAHAM: We spent Christmas with our son and his wife, and I came away wondering if shes really the right wife for him. Shes so different from us, and we just didnt feel comfortable around her. They seem happy, but should I say something privately to him? R.L.
DEAR ABBY: Im incredibly fond of my friend Russell. He is always supportive, considerate and kind to me. However, I know that he is into S&M, and this worries me, as I cant reconcile the two different people: a gentle person with someone wanting to dominate and possibly hurt a woman in bed.
DEAR MISS MANNERS: On more than one occasion, I have heard a woman say, Were pregnant! when referring to the fact that the couple is expecting a baby. My in-laws will even say, Did you hear that John and Jane are pregnant?
DEAR BILLY GRAHAM: This past Christmas, I got to thinking about what might have happened to Jesus while he was growing up. Does the Bible tell us? Ive seen articles saying he went to places like Tibet or India to learn about philosophy and religion. Is there any truth to this? D.G.