I was addressing an informal talk to a mixed-gender group of seniors. Later, one of the ladies pulled me aside and gently explained that women of her generation did not care to be addressed as “guys,” (as in, “You guys may be familiar with …”).
DEAR ABBY: I always thought that “Lana,” my wife of 14 years, and I had the perfect marriage. When I discovered she was having an affair, it hit me like a train wreck. After many weeks of trying to discover who she really is, I found out she has had several affairs throughout our marriage.
DEAR ABBY: I am a 42-year-old divorced father of two. I have had a girlfriend, “Dawn,” for about a year. She has met my kids, but she’s still uncomfortable with the “situation.” She has concerns about me having been married before, such as having experienced many of the firsts she has yet to enjoy. Dawn doesn’t like being in my house because I had it when I was married, and she says my kids remind her of my past. She says she doesn’t want to share me with anyone, including them.
I received an email from one of our board chairs sent to “Peeps.” My boss, who thinks he is “in the know,” thought that was an OK salutation. I said I would never answer one that started off like a 12-year-old trying to be cool. What do you think?
Granted that I have toned it down substantially over the years, but I have never been a sweet, demure, public relations-type person. I am more of a down-to-earth, tell-it-like-it-is, realistic, logical-type person.
My father never had any problems with alcohol, but after mother died last year he began drinking heavily, and now it’s gotten out of control. How can my brothers and I help him? If we try to say anything he just leaves the room.
DEAR ABBY: What are the ethics in outing a cheater? Someone I know has been cheated on by her boyfriend for two years — about as long as she has been with him. I know this because the woman he has been cheating with is someone I know. Last week, I told the girl her boyfriend has been cheating. Now I am suddenly a pariah and outcast. I felt she had the right to know, but was I wrong? Should I not have told her?