DEAR ABBY: I work in a palliative care unit in a local hospital, and Im all too aware of how important it is to have ones end-of-life wishes documented, notarized and on-hand in case of an emergency. I remember reading an essay that appeared in your column years ago; it eloquently described the desire of the writer that his body be used to allow others to live through organ donation.
DEAR MISS MANNERS: One sends out an RSVP invitation with a specific deadline, and then, because of poor response, the hosts want to cancel. Obviously the regrets do not need to be notified. Those accepting the invitation should be notified.
DEAR BILLY GRAHAM: A friend of mine admits she isnt a Christian but claims she feels Gods presence when she does something good for other people. Im not sure what she means by this, but I admire her for her concern for others. J.J.
DEAR ABBY: About a year ago, I stopped seeing a man Ill call Vince. Since then he has been stalking me. He sends me texts with photos he took of us while we were dating, but distorts them to make me look like Im stabbing him in the heart. He sends videos with my head on a dancing Barbie doll. My neighbors tell me they see him drive past my house. (He lives across town.) I refuse to talk to him now because he scares me.
DEAR MISS MANNERS: Last week I joined a popular online dating site and went on a first date. He picked me up at my house and took me out to dinner. Unfortunately, from the moment he opened his mouth, I knew we would not be compatible.
DEAR BILLY GRAHAM: Can people ever change? My husband has always been a very impatient person, and Ive finally decided that hes always going to be that way. Please pray that Ill be able to adjust, because sometimes its very hard to get along with him. C.Y.
DEAR ABBY: Im a member of the clergy who enjoys studying for my ministry and doctoral work at a local coffee shop. Three men who go there every day have found out that Im a minister, and they each want to talk with me while Im there. Although all three are members of the same religion, none of them is affiliated with a church.
DEAR BILLY GRAHAM: How do we know if what someone says about God is actually true? Maybe its just something they dreamed up or that they sincerely think is true but it isnt. Im not sure we can know anything for certain about God. Z.N.
DEAR ABBY: What can I do about a child I see in an automobile who is hanging out the window when she passes my house? The child is around 4 years old. Today when I saw the little girl, the only parts of her in the car were her lower legs and feet. Her mother, father and grandmother allow her to do this.
DEAR BILLY GRAHAM: I grew up believing that it didnt take much to make God angry at me, and I always needed to be on my best behavior or he might do something bad to me. But my cousin says Im wrong and that God loves us and treats us kindly no matter what we do. Which of us is right? T.M.
DEAR ABBY: As a child, I was sexually, physically and mentally abused. As an adult, I suffered several miscarriages, and two of my children died as infants. I have two living children, ages 9 and 16. It should be no surprise that I turned to food for comfort; I ate myself to a whopping 420 pounds.
DEAR MISS MANNERS: How would one interpret an invitation that states, This is an adult-oriented event. Chaperoned children are welcome?
DEAR BILLY GRAHAM: Our church went heavily into debt to build our new building, but now our pastor has left, several families are drifting away, and were having a hard time making the mortgage payments. Does the Bible say anything about borrowing lots of money to build a church? K.R.
DEAR ABBY: Still Alive in San Diego said she reads the obituaries every day and feels somehow disappointed when she doesnt see a name she recognizes. She asked if it was weird, and you told her yes, that it seemed like a lack of empathy.
DEAR BILLY GRAHAM: My fiance and I deeply love each other, but we cant decide where to get married. His family belongs to one denomination and my family belongs to another, and, of course, they each want us to get married in their church. How can we keep everybody happy? R.O.
DEAR ABBY: My 13-year-old daughter, Lizzie, continues to talk to a 14-year-old boy who is very controlling and abusive. I made her stop talking to him, took away her cellphone privileges and tried to show her that she was going to wind up very hurt.
DEAR MISS MANNERS: I feel intimidated and insulted (perhaps assaulted) by everyone and their cameras. Everywhere I go lately, everybody is taking pictures with their cameras and phones. Its a constant barrage.
DEAR BILLY GRAHAM: My sister claims shes been saved, but I dont understand what shes talking about. Our family always went to church and tried to do whats right. But now shes acting like were misguided or something. Whats going on? J.D.
DEAR ABBY: Im a single mother of a beautiful 2-year-old daughter. I have always pictured myself as a mom of four little princesses. When I fantasized about having children, I imagined fairy tales, ballet, cheerleading, dress-up, tea parties all girl things.
DEAR MISS MANNERS: We have moved to a small town in a popular wine-growing region, and our next-door neighbor is a well-known winemaker. We invited him and his wife over for dinner, and I shared a bottle of one of my favorite (and not inexpensive) wines that I have been collecting for years.
DEAR BILLY GRAHAM: I know teenagers often rebel against their parents, but I admit I went overboard and have been a rebel ever since. We have two children now, and Im scared because I realize I dont have any idea how to be a good father. J.M.
DEAR ABBY: Before my ex-husband and I were married, I became pregnant with his baby. We decided together that we werent ready for the responsibility and made the mutual decision to end the pregnancy early in the first trimester. We did marry eventually and had a baby girl who is now in college.
DEAR BILLY GRAHAM: My parents got divorced when I was 8, and it was such a traumatic time for me that I vowed Id never get divorced myself. But now my marriage looks like its headed for the rocks. I cant believe this is happening. What did I do wrong? V.L.
DEAR ABBY: I have been single for five years. I recently reconnected with a man I lost contact with 13 years ago. We went out a few times and it was wonderful. Out of curiosity, I began checking him out online, starting with his mother, who he had mentioned was a surgeon. When I could find no information on her, I started looking up other things.
DEAR BILLY GRAHAM: How can I know whether or not a group is a cult? A woman in my office keeps trying to get me to go with her to her religious assembly, but I dont know anything about it. I didnt come from a religious family, but I know I need God. L.H.