A personal trainer just learned the hard way that some brides-to-be don’t want to be told to lose weight for their big day.
Atlanta radio personality Cassie Young has women across the country cheering for her after she publicly called out a trainer who tried to convince her she needed to lose weight for her wedding. Think of the pictures, he told her.
Young didn’t have a problem with the pitch. But she did have a problem with the guy not taking no for an answer.
The drama, which has captured international headlines, began when the trainer reached out to Young on Twitter after she announced she was engaged.
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Young, social media director for “The Bert Show,” a syndicated radio show out of Atlanta, posted screen shots of her conversation with the trainer on her Facebook page and Instagram, where they’ve attracted thousands of responses.
“This guy reached out to me on Twitter with a pitch, and it spiraled into something else,” she wrote on Instagram. “I’m posting this because I want every woman and man to know that it does not MATTER what you look like.”
The unnamed trainer offered Young his services “to get you in shape for your wedding.”
She declined the offer, telling him “I am in shape.” But he persisted, and that’s where the wheels fell off the track.
“I know you want to look your best on your wedding day,” he wrote. “If you don’t hire me hire someone. Those pictures lasts centuries. Your children’s children children will still have those pictures. You want your best you.”
Young pushed back.
“I know it’s probably hard for you to understand this, but it’s taken me a long time to love my body,” she responded.
“I’m constantly shamed or reminded that I’m heavy and I should be embarrassed — or people are embarrassed for me — or just straight up rude, calling me ‘disgusting.’ I’ve battled past all that and like how I look ...
“I’ve worked really hard at accepting my self-worth and disassociating the idea that my weight is a direct correlation to my value as a person or how much people will like me. And I found someone who loves me no holds barred — just the way I am, thus proving that true.”
Still the trainer, who disclosed he used to be heavier, persisted, writing “you can’t lie to yourself.”
Young accused him of “perpetuating the problem” of tying self-worth to one’s appearance.
People have flooded Young’s social media, and the radio show, with messages of support.
Not everyone has been kind, though. She posted a photo of herself in a two-piece bathing suit to clap back at people — she called them the “heartless Army of the Dead” — who mocked her body.
“This photo is for you, trolls,” she wrote on Instagram. “Eat your (heart) out.”
Young told HuffPost that the trainer, whom she did not identify, is upset that he’s “being shamed.”
She and her fiance have not picked a date for their wedding.