A woman named Carol Santa Fe told a British tabloid she “married” a train station in California that she has loved since she was 9 years old.
Santa Fe identifies herself as objectum sexual, or OS, a person who develops deep emotional feelings for an inanimate object or structure.
She considers the train station female and says being in a relationship with it “is our sexuality, just like being lesbian or bisexual,” she recently told The Mirror.
She told the Mirror she didn’t realize this about herself until she was 40 and typed “I am in love with a building” into a search engine.
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“Such objectophiles express a loving and/or sexual preference and commitment to particular items or structures.” Mark Griffiths explains in Psychology Today, adding that psychologists have only begun to study the field in recent years.
“Such individuals rarely (if ever) have sex with humans and they develop strong emotional fixations to the object or structure. Unlike sexual fetishism, the object or structure is viewed as an equal partner in the relationship and is not used to enhance or facilitate sexual behavior.”
In 2007 an American woman named Erika LaBrie became one of the most famous objectophiles in the world when she “married” the Eiffel Tower. She took Eiffel as her last name.
Other cases cited by Griffiths include a man in Washington state who said he had sex with more than 1,000 cars, a British woman who had romantic feelings for the Statue of Liberty and a Pennsylvania woman who fell in love with an amusement park ride.
A woman named Eklöf Berliner-Mauer became arguably the first person to claim being attracted to an inanimate object when she said she “married” the Berlin Wall in 1979.
“I find long, slim things with horizontal lines very sexy,” she told London’s Telegraph in 2008. “The Great Wall of China’s attractive, but he’s too thick – my husband is sexier.”
She was thus horrified when the Berlin Wall came tumbling down. She transferred her affection to a garden fence.
According to the Objectum-Sexuality Internationale, a support group and educational website for objectophiles, long-distance relationships can challenge objectum sexuals just as they can people in human-human relationships.
“To overcome the challenge, many objectum sexuals build or acquire scale models,” the website notes. “While models cannot replace the original, they provide a link as an extension of the object. Similar to people carrying photographs or articles such as jewelry to remind of their distant lover.
“Naturally, whenever possible, we prefer to be with the object we love.”
Santa Fe, who lives in San Diego, told the Mirror she rides a bus 45 minutes every day to the train station, which she calls Daidra.
She said she and the building “tied the knot” two years ago.
“Objectum sexuality is not a mental illness like the media always makes out,” she insisted to the Mirror. “It is our sexuality, just like being lesbian or bisexual – we are not crazy.
“Daidra has been the most stable partner I have ever had. I have had the time of my life being her wife.
“I used to be scared of being in love with humans, but I’m not scared with Daidra. I could never love another train station – she is the one.”
Santa Fe’s coming-out interview with the Mirror caught the side-eye of many, including LGBT news and entertainment website Queerty.
“We give it two weeks,” Queerty wrote.