Kylie Kelce Just Said What Every Woman Dealing With Fertility Pressure Is Thinking
During the March 5 episode of her “Not Gonna Lie” podcast, Kylie Kelce revived her fan-favorite segment — “You know what’s f***ed up?”
It was directed at a social habit most people have witnessed at parties, tailgates and family gatherings: assuming a woman is pregnant just because she declined a drink.
“Hey, you know what’s f***ed up? Assuming a woman is pregnant or trying to get pregnant when she simply declines a drink,” she said roughly four minutes into the episode.
Kelce, who is married to former NFL center Jason Kelce and shares four daughters — Wyatt, 6, Elliotte, 5, Bennett, 3, and Finnley, 1 — with him, said the assumption follows her everywhere, despite being open about the fact that she’s just not much of a drinker.
“I’ve been on record multiple times informing the real ones that I do, in fact, not usually drink,” she explained.
Her preference? A glass of water, iced tea or “a crispy Coke.”
No deeper meaning. She just doesn’t like alcohol that much. But people keep pushing.
Saying It To Someone’s Face Makes It Worse
Kelce drew a line between the private assumption and the moment someone actually voices it. Thinking it is one thing. Saying it out loud crosses into different territory.
“Worse than that is commenting to her face in response to her declining a beverage,” she added.
She recalled a recent situation where someone offered her a drink, she declined, and the immediate follow-up was whether she was pregnant. Kelce said she “can brush it off pretty fast,” but she’d rather not have to deal with it at all.
Then she laid out exactly why that question is a minefield regardless of who’s on the receiving end.
“You never know what someone is going through, what they have gone through previously, what stage they are at in their journey, if they are building a family,” she explained. “In other words, they could be trying and you could be bringing something up that’s not really good.”
“Or even weirder… You could be saying it to someone who has actively chosen to not have kids, which is also none of your business.”
Kelce went further, listing a range of reasons someone might turn down a drink — reasons that aren’t owed to anyone making small talk.
“Some people could have had a loss. Some people could be actively in IVF treatments. Some people could have a diagnosis that could make it physically not possible for them to have kids even though they would like to. Some people might have an addiction to alcohol and be in recovery. Some people might just not like the taste,” she explained.
She said she falls into the category of people who don’t like the taste.
The Questions Started Early In Her Marriage
Kelce shared that the intrusive questions didn’t begin with the podcast. She said she would often get asked “are you trying?” when she and Jason Kelce first got married.
The couple has been married since 2018, according to TODAY.
Her go-to response? “We practice a lot.”
“Now it’s weird for both of us. Why do you need to know that? That’s between me and my husband,” she said.
It’s a funny deflection, but the point underneath it is sharp: questions about someone’s family planning are inherently personal, and forcing someone to use humor just to get through a social interaction isn’t exactly good etiquette.
Kelce’s fix couldn’t be more direct.
“Offer her something else to drink and then move on. Or don’t offer her something else to drink and move on. Another option, mind your business.”
Kelce also described the ripple effect once someone drops the pregnancy question in a social setting. The person who said no to the drink suddenly feels pressure to explain themselves, and the whole dynamic shifts.
“You’re making it weird,” she said. “And you’ve put us both in this situation now. And that’s not fun for anyone.”
Production of this article included the use of AI. It was reviewed and edited by a team of content specialists.
