Are you tidying up ... your friends?
Some people are taking Marie Kondo’s advice from the hit Netflix show “Tidying Up,” and applying it to their relationships, not just to their belongings.
In the show, which was released on Netflix in January, Kondo advises that viewers properly honor belongings that “spark joy” inside them by displaying them properly within their home. For those things that don’t “spark joy,” Kondo recommends getting rid of them.
At first, it may seem a bit final — or a bit harsh, even. But that isn’t stopping people from asking themselves, “Does that friend ‘spark joy’?”
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Start on social media, if you haven’t worked your way up to deleting real-life friends. Take, for example, that college acquaintance who loves to make every post political, or the friend of a friend whose penchant for less-than-hot takes is fuel for your rolling eyes.
If they don’t spark joy, the folks who are tidying up their friends Marie Kondo-style their friends lists will tell you to simply get rid of them.
But de-cluttering doesn’t have to equate with going all the way to de-friending. Many social platforms, including Facebook and Twitter, allow users to simply “unfollow” or “mute” accounts without severing the connection.
“Having too many friends or a social calendar bursting at the seams can be exhausting and you can end up spreading yourself too thinly,” Simone Bose, a counselor for Relate, the United Kingdom’s relationship support charity, said, according to the Huffington Post. “I have clients who are exhausted and spend four times a week out socializing. “If you think about a person and the balance of their life, there are other areas – such as spirituality, time for themselves, good quality relationships with close friends and family – and those areas often get neglected.”
So, stop breaking your back trying to catch up with friends from 20-30 years ago, stop going back to friends with passive-aggressive tendencies and stop feeling obligated to go to lunch with every friend of a friend you happen to meet, says the advice on “tidying up” your relationships, from Good Housekeeping.
But once you get started Marie Kondo-ing your friends, you have to wonder, how many will you be left with?