Who among us has never made a mistake or used poor judgment?
We all have wished for the capacity to hit rewind. As a psychotherapist I’ve heard many patients lament, “I made my bed; now I must lie in it.” Who says?
Sure, it’s best to learn the lessons that consequences provide, but just because you’ve made a mess of something doesn’t mean that’s where you must lay your head. Isn’t it written somewhere that “this too shall pass”?
That is difficult for some to believe, those who are waiting for life to fix itself. We humans sure have the propensity to get and remain stuck. But what type of effort would it take for us to get unstuck?
The irony of life is that we learn the most from our failures, shortcomings and imperfect relationships. What hurts us the most will instruct us if we’re willing to work our way through to the other side of life’s pain and disappointments.
Humans find safety in complacency, which is a good enough reason for some to remain there. Unfortunately, it creates flavorless life.
A strong faith is carbonated. It enhances your well-being and can define your future. Well-being is a skill that’s no different from learning to play an instrument. The more you practice, the better you get.
Same is true with faith. When we practice our faith, the brain creates new circuitry and produces a substrate that helps changes endure. When our faith is strong we’re more resilient, meaning we recover quicker when stuff happens.
The more resilient, the more positive, the more positive the more optimistic, the more optimistic, the more hopeful. We put faith to work by being hopeful. When our faith is working we acknowledge the goodness in life and others; we don’t judge, we accept.
I believe that the truth of who we are can be found at the intersection of many different beliefs. Loving kindness meditations have helped both me and my patients sustain a positive outlook that solidifies hope. A language of faith literally changes the manner in which our neurons fire.
When we change what we tell ourselves, then we change what we see. Faith will help us escape the fate of our thoughts. Faith feels good. Just like the reward for patience is more patience, the reward for having faith is more faith. It’s a vibrant spiritual fuel that drives determination and accountability.
Faith allows me to forgive everything that lies behind me, thus continually upgrading the trajectory of my life. When my faith is strong I choose to be less encumbered with a bunch of old nonsense. When I default into negativity I’m perfecting gloominess.
Our degree of faith determines our internal weather. So since none of us really knows what’s going to happen next, why not anticipate the best? The last thing any of us wants is to wake up and realize that we had a great future behind us.
For gosh sake, have some faith.
Thomas Scott is a Faith Walk writer for The Star. Email him at firstname.lastname@example.org.