Q: My husband and I have a fairly happy marriage, but he has no use for my faith (although he does let me go to church). Sometimes he’ll even make negative comments about me and my faith in front of others, and it always embarrasses me. Any suggestions? — A.L.
A: I’m sorry your husband sometimes embarrasses you before others because of your faith; such behavior should be off-limits in any marriage, regardless of the reason. The Bible tells us instead to “Be kind and compassionate to one another” (Ephesians 4:32).
But don’t let this get you down or make you think you must not be worth anything, because the opposite is true. God knows all about your situation, and ultimately your husband’s argument is not with you but with God. When we put our faith in Christ, he adopts us into his family, and nothing will ever change his love for us, even the mockery of those who think we’re foolish for believing in Christ.
Remember too that people often did their best to embarrass Jesus and tear him down, but they didn’t succeed, nor should they with you. Shortly before he was arrested and put to death, for example, his enemies “sent spies, who pretended to be sincere. They hoped to catch Jesus in something he said, so that they might hand him over to the power and authority of the (Roman) governor” (Luke 20:20).
Pray for your husband, that he will face his pride and realize his need for Christ. Pray too that God will help you to be the best wife you can possibly be, and that Christ’s love and peace will shine through your life. Often our strongest witness for Christ comes not from what we say, but by the life we live.
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