DEAR MISS MANNERS: An old friend, but one I had not kept in touch with for more than 15 years, called to say he’s visiting from the opposite coast and asked if we could get together. I was delighted to hear from him, and in the course of catching up on each other’s lives and arranging dinner, he inquired about my wife: “So are you and Jane still together?”
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Yes. “How is Jane?”Third walk down aisle with dad DEAR MISS MANNERS: It’s my third marriage. Should I have my dad walk me down the aisle?
If he doesn’t plead exhaustion from the first two trips.
Miss Manners reminds you that the guests will be aware that his previous attempts to give you away were unsuccessful. But the custom is now so far removed from its original meaning of a bride’s leaving the guardianship of her father for that of a husband that it hardly seems to matter.Help is no help DEAR MISS MANNERS: I often host play dates at my home with young children and their mothers. The kids all play together while the moms chat. When it is time to end the play date, the mothers often try to make the kids pick up the toys, or the mothers will pick them up themselves.
“Please let me, it is my pleasure. I’m sure that when you have the play group over, you will want to clean up too. I’m trying to teach Sebastian how to be a good host.”
If you must, you may add “ and put everything in its proper place,” but Miss Manners warns you that you will do better acting the gracious hostess and using the “teaching moment” card, than implying, “You’re doing it all wrong!” Your guests will then also be more receptive to taking the hint to host a play date in the future.© Universal Uclick 5/2