Being intimate with someone because you’re afraid you’ll lose him or it will be your last chance is the wrong reason. I think that the sooner you talk with a licensed therapist about your lifelong shyness and discomfort, the quicker you can understand the reasons for it and overcome it. Your doctor should be able to refer you to someone.
If Brian is the right man for you, he will stand by you. But if he doesn’t, you’ll be able to more easily relate to someone else.Invite only friends DEAR ABBY: I am planning my wedding in the fall. My fiance and I are paying for the wedding and reception. I have worked at my job for a year, and I haven’t always been treated well by a few co-workers. I am reluctant to invite these people because I’m worried about the repercussions if I do. I know they will judge every aspect because they did it to another co-worker. I like a few of the people I work with, but I don’t know if I can invite only them. What do I do? — Wedding Planner in Omaha DEAR WEDDING PLANNER:
What you do is invite only those people you truly want to attend your wedding. It’s not necessary to apologize for it or to explain why. If you are put on the spot and feel you must give a reason, say that your guest list is limited because of financial constraints. It’s far more tactful than saying they are being excluded because they are rude, awful people, and you don’t want them anywhere near you on such an important occasion.© Universal Uclick 4/10