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Well, that is the annoying thing about public accommodations: They accommodate the public. But even a private club would have a hard time enforcing a No Bragging rule.
Rebuking other customers for chatting in a cafe is a ridiculous notion, and considering your interest in the content of their talk, Miss Manners does not trust you to ask them politely to speak more softly.
But you asked for alternative ways of handling this:
• As you say that “most,” not all, of the customers could hear such a conversation, you could move to an area it does not reach.
• You could learn to make good coffee at home, where you can presumably set the noise level.
• You could ask the management of the coffee shop if they would consider establishing a quiet zone.
• You could wear earplugs, or headphones disguised as earplugs.
• You could try to find a library that serves good coffee.
Whichever you manage, Miss Manners hopes that you will learn the limits of correcting other people’s forms of relaxation.
How can you assist someone in completing his or her statement unless you already know what that person was intending to say? And if you already know what is going to be said, why bother holding a conversation?
So yes, it is considered rude to finish other people’s sentences. And Miss Manners wants it to be clear that this applies not only to stutterers, but to spouses as well.© Universal Uclick 2/25