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After a hard day’s work, your husband may just want to sit down and relax. But that doesn’t mean you couldn’t schedule some activity together on a weekend: hiking, skating, kayaking, going to an art show or seeing what’s scheduled at the convention center. You could also make a date with other young married couples or occasionally schedule a girls’ night out with some of your female friends.
I agree that it’s important for you and your husband not to get into a rut. That’s why you need to budget so you CAN get out and have some fun together a few times a month.Confused about sexuality DEAR ABBY: Several years ago I met “Holly,” the love of my life. We married and had a child. Soon after our son’s birth, I found out Holly had a boyfriend on the side. Our divorce was one of the most traumatic experiences of my life. Because of her instability, I was granted custody of our son.
It is important that you determine exactly who you are, whether it is a walking-wounded heterosexual, bisexual or homosexual. A licensed psychotherapist can help you with this, and do it in confidence.
Regardless of your sexual orientation, you should realize that when breakups happen between couples — and that includes male/male, female/female and heterosexual — there is usually heartbreak involved. However, without risk there can be no reward, and celibacy is not the answer. If it turns out that you are, indeed, gay, then you should consider relocating to a more gay-friendly area.