By recognizing that you have a problem that you can’t deal with on your own, you have already taken an important first step in resolving it. The next is to talk to your gym teacher about this and enlist her aid in convincing your mother to give you the help you need.
Childhood obesity is rampant in this country, and all those extra pounds could negatively affect your health, not only now, but in the future. If you have a pediatrician, the doctor may be able to discuss the importance of a healthy diet and exercise program for you with your mom. You will need the help of other adults to make her understand if she can’t see that you need help now.
At 18 you are too old to be sneaking around. Your father knows something is up, and he probably suspects the reason you’re not being truthful or open, so stop lying.
If he wants to know why you haven’t brought the young man around, tell him it’s because you know how he would react. And IF you decide to make introductions, be sure your boyfriend knows in advance what the reaction will probably be — if he agrees to meet your dad, that is. But I wouldn’t blame him if he didn’t.Needy friend wants too much DEAR ABBY: I ran into an old high school friend a while ago. “Jan” and I are both single moms. We want what’s best for our kids. She has no family living here, and she doesn’t have many friends. Jan has low self-esteem, high anxiety and, I believe, she mismanages her finances. Her house is extremely unkempt. She calls me in tears often, asking for advice and help. I have tried to help her, but it is becoming overwhelming.
It is neither mean nor rude to draw the line when someone’s neediness is more than you can cope with. It is OK to say no, and you needn’t feel guilty about it.
It is also OK to advise someone that low-cost counseling is available in most communities if the person appears unstable or unable to cope with life. When you do, tell her that her needs are more than you are able to handle. If you do, you may not need to end the friendship — she may do it for you, but you’ll be doing her a favor.© Universal Uclick 12/7