DEAR ABBY: I have been divorced five years and have five children, ranging in age from 23 to 8. When I was having trouble with my middle son, “Logan,” I found help from his godfather, “Carl.” I hadn’t seen Carl in years. He was my ex’s best friend when Logan was born. Long story short, Carl and I have been in a committed relationship for two years now. He has been more a part of our lives than my ex has. Four of my kids love Carl, and he is very involved in their lives. Logan, however, hates him and throws a fit if his name is mentioned. I have tried to explain that I didn’t intend this to happen, but Logan feels I “took away his godfather from him.” Carl is still there for him, but Logan will have none of it and refuses to listen.
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Logan may be 17, but he is acting like a child. Do not let his behavior discourage you from having a life. In another year he will be 18 and either concentrating on finishing his education or finding a job.
Logan needs to realize that he hasn’t “lost” a godfather and that everyone may eventually be gaining a stepdad. He also needs to understand that if he can’t accept it, he will find himself odd man out in an otherwise healthy, happy and functional family.Pot smoker is putting off quitting DEAR ABBY:
You have been patient enough. If Todd had any intention of quitting, it would have happened already. Four years of procrastination are enough. Because you feel so strongly about this, it’s time to move on because your boyfriend is not going to change.Dessert a day before
They might, indeed, especially if they are trying to spread those extra calories over a longer period. (And it would be a good idea to exercise the day after they indulge.) Thanks for the suggestion.© Universal Uclick 11/1