Either your former stepfather was the greatest father in the world to HER, or your half-sister needs the fantasy she’s clinging to for her emotional well-being. Let her have her fantasy if it comforts her. If she raises the subject of good old dad with you, just tell her you’d prefer not to discuss it. If you do that, you’ll both be happier.To tell or not to tell DEAR ABBY: I’m 31 and the mother of three awesome children. At 29, I left my husband of nine years and came out of the closet. I have been in a stable two-year relationship with my girlfriend, and she recently moved in with us. My oldest child has started asking if his friends can come and stay the night on a weekend. I let one child spend the night with him once. My sister asked me if I had told the child’s parent that I’m a lesbian living with a partner. When I said no, she got upset and said that because we live in a small, religious country town I should inform the child’s parent of my living situation.
I, too, can see where your sister is coming from, and I don’t like the direction. You are not under any obligation to announce your sexual orientation to anyone. In a small town, religious or not, word gets around quickly on its own. Trust me on that. However, if you are asked directly, you should be honest.Bridesmaids lose money DEAR ABBY:
What happened was unfortunate, and I hope the lesson the bridesmaids learned from this wasn’t an expensive one. Unless you agreed to look after the young women’s belongings, you are not responsible for the loss. They should have left their purses with someone they trusted or secured in a locked room or car.
As a gesture of good will, depending upon the state of your finances, you might want to make good on their loss. But you are not required to do so.© Universal Uclick 9/6