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While your altruism is laudable, please try to be less judgmental. Many older people work longer these days not to live lavish lifestyles, but to survive.
Unless you have a crystal ball that enables you to see what seniors have in the bank, it’s presumptuous to say someone should retire. Many seniors are unprepared financially to do so through no fault of their own. And while you may think now that you’ll take a reduction in pay when your sons are out of college, it remains to be seen if that will be feasible for you when the time comes.Tasteless inquiries DEAR ABBY: My cousin died a short time ago at a very young age and in an unnatural and devastating way. As soon as people outside the family started finding out, they began asking what happened. Many of these questions were posted on my relatives’ Facebook pages. Is it just me or isn’t that a very insensitive thing to do? It’s not just that they are asking questions of a grieving family who lost their son only hours before, but that they did it through Facebook. — Mourning in the Midwest
Please accept my sympathy for your family’s tragic loss. We live in an age in which respect for privacy has nearly disappeared, and folks routinely bare intimate and sensitive details about their lives on the Internet. Of course questions like the ones your relatives are being asked are tasteless, whether in person or via electronic media. If a person wishes to convey this kind of information, it is usually done voluntarily, and certainly not when feelings are raw.Life after addiction DEAR ABBY: Too often we hear horrifying stories in the news about prescription drug addiction and overdoses. I’d like to offer hope to addicts who are still using.
You’re welcome. You’re right that your story isn’t over yet, but from where I’m sitting it looks like the next chapter will be a happy and constructive one. I wish you success in your journey.© Universal Uclick 9/5