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Ladies are conditioned to notice one another’s rings, as it would be churlish not to exclaim admiringly when a friend has a new sparkle on her finger (and in her eye). But it appears that many of them don’t know when to stop.
Usually it is widows who tell Miss Manners that their friends have announced opposition to their continuing to wear their marriage rings. Yours is an unusual case, but the idea is the same.
Such friends do not argue the obvious point that prospective suitors (whom they may not even want) could assume that the widows are still married. Rather, it is declared, as you were told, that they have “no right” to wear such rings.
What can be the motives of such so-called friends, Miss Manners cannot imagine. But they are wrong. As long as you have not stolen these rings, you have the right to wear them as you wish.Rude salespeople
It is not only because these people are rude to you that they are bad at their job. Apparently they are so out of touch as to believe that rich people still dress up to go shopping.
You could try to shame them by asking politely, “Excuse me, did I do something wrong?” But rude people are notoriously oblivious to shame, so Miss Manners believes you would do better by talking calmly to the manager — not about your clothes, but about your being treated rudely for whatever reason.