Tell your husband you know he loves you, has good morals and would never leave you, but that you feel intimidated by his renewed relationship with his high school sweetheart. Tell him you know he is kindhearted, but for your mental health to please consider winding down these conversations. And it would be a kindness for him to recommend a counselor to his friend to help her resolve her issues.Kissing customs DEAR ABBY: I’m 27 and the mother of a 6-year-old boy. I kiss him on the mouth and never thought twice about it until today, when my husband told me it’s “creepy” that I do it at my son’s age. In my family we have always kissed on the mouth, and I still kiss my mother this way. Is it “weird” or inappropriate? I didn’t think so, but now I’m concerned. — “Smoochy” in Tacoma, Wash.
Did you also kiss your father on the mouth? Different families have different customs, and if your husband spent much time around your family, he should have noticed that. I don’t see anything weird or inappropriate about the way you kiss your child. If your son reaches an age where it makes him uncomfortable, I’m sure he’ll let you know.‘Please advise’ is rude? DEAR ABBY: I work in customer service and have noticed that more than half the people who write in abruptly end their emails with “Please advise.”
There is no rule of etiquette pertaining to the use of the phrase “please advise.” Many individuals who write to me for advice end their letters that way. It’s not offensive; it simply means the person is asking for a reply.© Universal Uclick 8/29