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You are not incarcerated, and you are only as trapped as you choose to make yourself. Most colleges have career counseling services, and you should avail yourself of them.
If teaching children is your heart’s desire, you will have to take the time to prepare for it, know ahead of time what opportunities are available and what the compensation is. Make it your business to find out before making any drastic changes. You’ll be glad you did.Dad-daughter feud DEAR ABBY: I fervently want to help my daughter and her father (my ex) fix their relationship. They are both a lot alike — bullheaded and stubborn. They can’t see how much they hurt each other.
I wish you had clarified what your ex “does” do for his daughter, because from your description it appears he has done the minimum and little else. Having been excluded from “family game nights and dinners out,” it’s natural that she would feel her father made a new family and left her in the dust.
While I admire your impulse to be the peacemaker, I don’t think you can fix this. Family counseling might be able to mend the rift, but only if all parties are willing.No celebrating this day DEAR ABBY: My wife died on my birthday a few years back. It was the most traumatic thing that has ever happened to me, and my birthday has been depressing since. Every year, people continue to send cards and gifts, wishing me a happy birthday. All I want to do on that miserable day is get through it. It will never be “happy” for me again. Ever. I don’t want to be nasty to these well-meaning people, but I really do want them to stop. How can I convey that my birthday is not a happy occasion anymore? — Party Pooper in New Mexico DEAR PARTY POOPER:
I am sorry for your loss. A way to ensure your message gets across would be to write or call these well-meaning individuals, thank them for their good wishes and tell them exactly what you have written to me. I think you expressed it very well.© Universal Uclick 8/16