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That your husband chooses not to recognize that depression is an illness — one that’s treatable — is a reflection of his ignorance. That he would tell you your attempted suicide was abusive to HIM suggests that he is more concerned with himself than he is with you.
You have teenage children who need their mother. Trying to hang onto what’s left of your sanity and get the medications you need isn’t selfish — it’s sound thinking. If not for your sake, please seek help now for theirs.Wiser parenting? DEAR ABBY:
A way to handle your feelings would be to view the situation from the perspective of an adult, not a jealous child. That your parents will foster this teenager doesn’t mean they will love their grandchildren any less.
On some level they may be trying to make up for the mistakes they made in your upbringing. Because they were ill-equipped to recognize your emotional problems does not mean they won’t be wiser now. I suggest you wait to discuss this with them until you’re feeling less resentful.Why girls act out DEAR ABBY: I’m a 12-year-old girl trying to live a simple life. I read your column every day. I have one small question. I really wanna know why girls don’t like each other that much. Many girls at my school are really mean. I wish I knew the answer to why girls are like that. Do you know why? — Confused DEAR CONFUSED:
Girls your age are mean to other girls for a variety of reasons. Some of them may be acting out because they are having problems at home. They may do it because they are jealous or to make themselves feel more important (a power trip).
Girls like this have never been taught to respect the feelings of others. They behave this way because they haven’t matured enough to have developed empathy, an ability to be sensitive to the feelings of those they are hurting.© Universal Uclick 7/26