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You are absolutely right. Although you have known this young man for three years, now that you are dating, the character of your relationship has changed. If he seems hurt that you’re not saying “I love you” back, just tell him you need time because this is all new to you. It’s truthful.
While you’re not experienced, you’re no teenager. Your parents can minimize the importance of your relationship only if you allow them to. Granted, you are a late bloomer — but you are also an adult. The longer you keep this a secret, the harder it will be for you to open up.
One way to introduce the subject would be to start saying “we” when you talk about where you’re going and what you’re doing. If they ask who the “we” is, you can then tell them you met a man named “John” a short while ago, that he seems nice, that you are seeing him, etc. Be prepared for questions and don’t be defensive. They should be overjoyed at the news you are dating.You can’t fix it DEAR ABBY:
Parents fight for many reasons, none of them having to do with you. The problems could be lack of money, job stress or something in their relationship with each other that isn’t working.
If it were possible for you to fix their marriage, I would advise you how to do it, but the only people who can do that are your parents themselves — if they are willing. If their fighting escalates to violence, rather than put yourself in the middle, you should call the police.© Universal Uclick 6/29