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Honesty is the best policy. Not wanting to upset someone would be a very poor reason for getting married. If Ned pops the question, it is perfectly all right to tell him exactly what you have shared with me — that you are not ready for that kind of commitment because you are only 19. It’s the truth.
If Ned becomes angry, do not allow him to stampede you into saying yes. That kind of reaction could be a warning sign of someone who is a potential abuser.Love for everyone DEAR ABBY: I’m 14 and haven’t had a girlfriend yet, but I’m curious about something. When I do have one, will it mean I can’t love other girls? Lots of girls tell me I’m nice, friendly and helpful. I love them. When I have a girlfriend or get married, I won’t be able to stop loving others. Is this wrong, Abby? — Carlos in Donna, Texas
There are varying degrees of love. There is nothing wrong with loving women, as long as you don’t love them all at the same time. If you do, it may upset your girlfriend or wife.
When you are ready for a permanent relationship, the feelings you will have for the woman you’re involved with will be stronger than those you are feeling now. However, if that doesn’t happen, consider it an indication that you either aren’t ready to settle down or you were meant to be a bachelor.Warning signs DEAR ABBY:
Thank you for your letter. Some readers felt the ice crunching was just a bad habit, but the majority echoed your concern that the crunching could be a sign of anemia. I hope your letter will encourage “Hates the Crunching’s” husband to contact his doctor and ask to be evaluated.Don’t nitpick gifts DEAR ABBY: My daughter, who is graduating from college, received a gift card from her aunt. The gift card is for the shop that the aunt owns. I think this was tacky. Am I wrong? — Proud Mama in North Carolina DEAR PROUD MAMA:
If your daughter likes the merchandise her aunt carries, I see nothing tacky about it. However, for you to criticize the gift is ungracious and tacky.© Universal Uclick 6/8