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Then proceed cautiously; this territory is full of land mines.
It is never polite to probe any pregnancy; the lady in question gets to give or withhold information as she pleases. Miss Manners begs you not to ask about the plans for the baby, which you will learn in good time.
What you want to show is concern, not curiosity. So you could offer to take her to her medical appointments, for example, or just to take her out for lunch or another treat. If you find that she plans to keep the baby, then you should make the usual fuss that relatives do when a baby is expected, but until then, let her do the talking, while you simply listen sympathetically and assure her of your love and support.Guests demand disposable tableware
Apparently your guests believe that they are unworthy of being treated nicely. Considering how rude it is to criticize and sabotage a host’s arrangements, Miss Manners is inclined to agree.
If you really want to entertain such people, you should tell them, “Thank you for your concern, but please sit down. This is my house, and I prefer to run it in my own way. I wouldn’t dream of interfering in your households.”
That is rather an odd question, as it presumably comes from someone who is looking at them. Miss Manners would consider it acceptable to reply, “They’re exactly the same size that you see.” If the follow-up question is, “No, I mean how many carats?” you may respond that they are welcome to count them.© Universal Uclick 6/5