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Please stop beating yourself up. Your feelings are normal. You have a right to be angry that your mother is sick. At 23, you have had an unusual amount of responsibility thrust upon you for someone your age. That her disease has taken over your life is also a reason to be angry.
However, please stop blaming her for her illness. Right now, you need each other. And nonsmokers get cancer, too. The American Cancer Society has support groups where family members can safely share their feelings. Please check them out.Never too old to celebrate DEAR ABBY: I’m 43 and went back to school. I will graduate soon with my master of human services degree. I will be the first person in my immediate family to have a degree. My best friend thinks I’m foolish because I posed for graduation photos and ordered a class ring. Am I trying to recapture the “would have/could have/should have” years? — Ed in Louisiana
Shame on your friend for raining on your parade.
You’re celebrating the fact that as a nontraditional student you have earned your master’s degree. That’s a laudable accomplishment and deserves to be celebrated in any way you would like. Please accept my sincere congratulations, graduate!Can’t let go of old books DEAR ABBY:
It’s probably because your books have become an extension of yourself. Because you would like to do something else with the space they occupy, sort through them and keep only the most precious ones. If there are titles you would like to read again one day, do as many others are doing — read them on an e-reader.© Universal Uclick 6/3