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Because you had sex once does not mean you are compelled to do it again. Feeling as you do about the best friend is a strong sign that as much as you care for your boyfriend, you are not in love with him.
If you are being pressured to have sex, it’s important for your sake that you tell your boyfriend you feel it happened too soon, you’re sorry you did it, and you have decided to wait until you are older to start again. It would be an intelligent move for you because your affections appear to be all over the map right now.
I am also concerned because you didn’t mention whether you both used birth control. It’s a sign of maturity when couples plan ahead and take precautions to avoid an unwanted pregnancy. (And yes, a girl can get pregnant the first time.) In fact, there’s a word for teens who have sex on the spur of the moment and don’t use birth control: It’s PARENTS.Friend suffers from compulsive talking DEAR ABBY:
Not knowing your friend, I can only guess what drives her to talk compulsively. Some people do it because they feel the need to prove to others how smart they are. Others do it out of nervousness or insecurity because they are uncomfortable with silence — even if it is a momentary pause in conversation.
Because her behavior has had a negative impact on her employability, the next time she mentions problems at work, it would be a kindness to suggest to her that, because it’s happening repeatedly, she discuss it with a psychologist. That’s not hurtful; it’s helpful.© Universal Uclick 5/29