Let’s hope the note you received was an unfortunate attempt at humor. While the message may have gone over like a lead balloon and I’m sure the parents would be beyond embarrassed if they knew, at least you received a thank-you for your generosity. I hear from many people who complain that their gifts were not acknowledged at all.Keep business papers out of the restroom DEAR ABBY: One of my co-workers takes company research presentation books into the restroom with him multiple times a day and spends upwards of half an hour in there with them. The unsanitary implications of this drive me batty. I am not germophobic, but taking shared materials into the bathroom while you’re doing your business is just too much for me. It’s not like he’s taking in a newspaper that can be tossed out; these are research materials that we must all share! My co-worker told me I need to “get over it,” that this is a “me” issue. Am I crazy or is taking shared workplace materials into the bathroom gross and inappropriate? — Waiting for e. Coli to Kill Me DEAR WAITING:
You are asking the wrong person this question. You should be asking the head of human resources or your boss.
I’m no germophobe either, but I agree that what your co-worker is doing is extremely inappropriate. You should not have to sanitize your hands after touching anything your co-worker might have touched, but that’s what I’m suggesting you do.Forgiving can be a gift to yourself DEAR ABBY: I have many problems, but my biggest one is, how do I forgive someone so I can move on with my life? It would take me forever to tell you everything that has been said and done. Forgiving sounds simple, but it is the hardest thing I have ever had to do. Can you help? — Challenged in Illinois DEAR CHALLENGED:
If hate and resentment are eating away at you, then it is probably healthier for you to let go of it. Forgiving someone isn’t doing something for someone else; it is a gift you give yourself that allows you to move forward with your life. Your religious adviser can help you — or, if you prefer, a licensed mental health counselor.© Universal Uclick 5/24