Heather Beaver, who lives in Lawrence now and is moving to midtown in June, found her “tribe” when she dropped out of college to attend hair school.
“I went to college on a music theater vocal scholarship but quickly realized that I didn’t want to take other classes and courses,” she says. “I was coloring everyone’s hair in the dorm room and doing my friends’ hair before we went out on Saturday nights, so I went to hair school and fell in love with it.”
The 31-year-old has been a hairstylist for 11 years now and has risen to a sort of chieftan status — working full time as a traveling educator.
Oh, and she’s still working in a salon on Fridays and Saturdays.
“My career is my passion and is probably why I’m single … chronically single. I feel like I’m the last one standing most days.
“I have joked that my career has been my baby and my husband. … I’ve put my all into it, which has gotten me to my present position, but then I thought, ‘Oh, I forgot to get a husband along the way.’ ”
But don’t call her a workaholic.
“I definitely have a Type A personality, but I still know how to have fun,” she says.
She reached out to Datelines because “the people of Twitter will not stop tagging me in your tweets.”
Social network community aside, Beaver’s attempts at online dating have fallen flat.
“I think it’s a complete and total joke,” Beaver says.
Her experiences have gone from talking nonstop to a person only to have him ghost her, to having what she thought was a good date and then never hearing from him again. Oh, and the occasional unsolicited naughty photo.
So what is she looking for?
“Someone who can hold their own in social settings. Someone who is equally as passionate about their career or hobby as I am about my own. Life’s too short to work a job just to pay the bills. Someone who isn’t intimidated by my independence.”
Aaaand … “I tend to be attracted to African-American men but sometimes go for dark hair and light eyes, too. I like athletic types but not beefy-douchey.”
The woman knows what she wants.
“I travel for work, and it’s instantly assumed that ‘If you’re not at home, you don’t have time to date’ or ‘You have a career, you don’t need anything else’ or ‘You can do everything by yourself.’ ”
She gets it.
“Yeah, I can, I don’t want to, but I have so far. … I just want to feel supported at the end of the day.”
So if that sounds like you — and you’re interested in a “loud, outgoing” lady with the propensity to burst into song — Heather wants you to email her at email@example.com or find her on Twitter: @MsHeatherBeaver.
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