Jessie and Jared Bustamante met in 2012 when they were both clerks for Jackson County Circuit Court judges, and in the cutest wedding detail imaginable, they were married by these judges five years later, on Dec. 10, 2016.
The bride, 32, and groom, 31, didn’t pick a theme for their wedding but wanted the day to feel “very Kansas City.” The couple, both lawyers who live in east Brookside, picked special details that felt important to them but let the expertise of their vendors determine the rest of the day.
Their photographer, Alec Vanderboom, tagged along to the rehearsal dinner at Stockyard Brewery and pre-ceremony celebrations at Harry’s Bar and Tables, Union Station and the Nelson-Atkins Museum of Art, the site of Jared’s proposal on Sept. 10, 2015.
Proposal: Jessie called Jared on her way home from work. He said that she should check the dining room table and quickly hung up. Jessie found instructions that directed her to the Nelson and to ask for Mrs. Cecil Wade when she arrived. The docents pointed Jessie to the John Singer Sargent painting by the same name, Jared’s favorite piece. When Jessie walked in, Jared immediately got on one knee and asked her to marry him.
“I was a nervous wreck,” Jared says. “I got to the Nelson very early and talked the ear off of some poor docent until Jessie called. I could have played it cool and told her to meet me at home, but then I decided to totally tip my hand and hang up on her.”
Rings: Jared proposed with his grandmother’s engagement ring, which his grandfather purchased in 1948. The ring was rebuilt at Vinca Jewelry, where the couple also purchased their wedding bands.
Invitations: SKR Paper Creations in Merriam.
Location: The Guild, 1621 Locust St.
Length: About 20 minutes.
Dress code: Cocktail.
Officiants: The Honorable Jack R. Grate Jr. and the Honorable Jeffrey L. Bushur.
Wedding party: The couple chose eight bridesmaids and eight groomsmen, including siblings and friends from different periods of their lives.
Biggest crybaby: This was a toss up between the bride and the father of the groom.
Vows: Jared insisted that the couple write their own vows. “Jessie won the vows,” he says. “To gush a bit on my wife, hers were amazing. Mine were good — hers were exceptional.”
Song that got the party started: The processional, David Bowie’s “Young Americans.”
Band: Lost Wax, a band performing funky party songs.
First dance: George Michael and Queen version of “Somebody to Love.”
Father/daughter dance: Jessie’s dad insisted on doing a choreographed number for their dance. The pair took lessons at the Arthur Murray studio in Lenexa.
An instructor put together a dance to “Stand By Me” by Ben E. King and “24 Karat Magic” by Bruno Mars. “We told very few people we were doing this, and I think it was a pretty big hit,” Jessie says.
Mother/groom dance: “I’ll Be There,” by the Jackson 5.
“I insisted we go first,” Jared says. “No following that father/daughter dance, I assure you.”
Theme: “Honestly, we just wanted to throw a hell of a party at which we happened to get married,” Jessie says.
Handmade: The only handmade detail were the escort cards, which directed guests to their table. “They were exorbitantly expensive on Etsy, and I decided I could make replicas for way cheaper,” Jessie says.
Colors: Navy blue and gold. “I was inspired to use gold because my engagement ring is yellow gold, and I wanted the wedding to reflect the clean, timeless style of my ring,” Jessie says.
The dress: Jessie’s sweetheart strapless gown with a mermaid silhouette was purchased at Bride, 1800 Wyandotte St. No. 100 in the Crossroads Arts District. She wore a lace bolero over the top from Bridal Extraordinaire.
Location: The Guild
Number of guests: 225
Wedding cake: The couple had a small chocolate cake to cut, and caterers provided a dessert bar with churros, tarts and other sweets.
Food: The newlyweds chose Moxie Catering, who then created a menu inspired by the groom’s grandmother’s mole. They served a hearty buffet that included a chorizo dish, chicken mole and a chips and salsa bar.
Booze: Full bar, including a special bottle of 18-year Macallan provided by the groom’s father and a family friend.
Before and after
Bachelorette party: Jessie and her girls took a weekend trip to the bride’s college town, Columbia.
Bachelor party: Jared and his buds took the train to Chicago for a Cubs game and some golf.
Bridal shower: Friends threw a couple’s shower, where the lovebirds were gifted a custom monogrammed bags game set.
Rehearsal dinner: Stockyards Brewing Co. in the West Bottoms, with barbecue catered by Moxie Catering.
Honeymoon: The newlyweds spent a week at the Ti Kaye Resort and Spa in St. Lucia, with a pit stop on the way home to enjoy Christmas in New York.
Day of planning/coordinating: Jillian Randall, JJ Productions
Catering: Moxie Catering
Hair: Krystal Leitner from Buffalo Mane Salon
Make up: Gina Ciaccio-Holmberg
Photography: Alec Vanderboom
Florist: Amy Loux, Flora Design
Music: Lost Wax
Advice from the couple
Don’t get caught up on what you think a wedding should look like. There are no rules. Just stick to what defines you as a couple.
Don’t stress out about the guest list. Just focus on inviting the people who mean the most to you and who you want there to celebrate with you.