Learn to ask for help. Be open with others. Celebrate birthdays.
Those are the lessons that Facebook COO and “Lean In” author Sheryl Sandberg shared in a lengthy — and heartbreaking — Facebook post about the recent passing of her husband.
Dave Goldberg, who was CEO of SurveyMonkey, died in an accident May 1 at age 47 from blunt force trauma. He was exercising while on vacation in Mexico.
In the post, Sandberg reflected on how today was end of sheloshim — a 30-day period in the Jewish faith that completes the religious mourning process for a spouse. Sandberg said she has “lived thirty years in these thirty day. I am thirty years sadder. I feel like I am thirty years wiser.”
On learning the importance of asking for help, Sandberg writes: “Until now, I have been the older sister, the COO, the doer and the planner. I did not plan this, and when it happened, I was not capable of doing much of anything. Those closest to me took over.”
On being open: “I told those I work with most closely that they could ask me their honest questions and I would answer. I also said it was okay for them to talk about how they felt.”
On birthdays: “When a friend told me that he hates birthdays and so he was not celebrating his, I looked at him and said through tears, ‘Celebrate your birthday, goddammit. You are lucky to have each one.’”
Many took to Twitter to react and praise Sandberg for her post.