Deb Svoboda - What moms want this Mother’s Day
05/07/2013 12:00 AM
05/20/2014 10:43 AM
This Sunday is the day set aside to celebrate mom — that special lady who sat in the blistering heat through baseball games and swim meets, called out hundreds of spelling words, allowed her kitchen to be turned into a science lab with an erupting volcano, chauffeured you to dance practice, dental appointments and the occasional emergency room, can still recite your favorite bedtime story from memory and demonstrated time and again that nothing you said or did could lessen her love for you.
While enjoying a recent morning out with their kiddos, some members of Northland’s KC Stay-at-Home Moms’ Meet-Up Group revealed what they would like most this Mother’s Day.
Lucky mom Renee Eades will be heading to a warm, sunny beach in Florida just in time to celebrate the big day. “I don’t think it was intended as a Mother’s Day gift,” she notes, “but it’s a pretty big one.” Still, there’s no need to break the bank to make mom feel like a queen. Eades says just walking in the door and hearing her daughters call out “Mommy” makes her feel like a celebrity. Those moments are special, she shares, “because eventually they will drop the last syllable.”
Two mothers with toddlers who are expecting their second child this summer want what many moms desire. “On Mother’s Day my husband lets me sleep in,” explains Marianne Horstman. “With a toddler, sleep is always nice.” Melanie Ewert is simply looking forward to a little break. “Even if that just means relaxing at home. If I didn’t have to change a diaper for a whole day or make a meal that would be great!”
Chi Kim believes just being with her three children, ages 4 through 10, is the best gift of all. “They remind me why we celebrate the day. I appreciate the time with them now while they need me and want me around.”
Others, however, like Sara Brown and Valerie Story, both mothers of two, would prefer a small slice of me-time. “Maybe I would like to sleep in a little and just have a quiet day by myself to relax with a book, a cup of coffee and have lunch where I want to have lunch,” admits Brown. “Getting a pedicure, like I did last year, would be nice,” confides Story almost apologetically. “I love my kids, but Mother’s Day is my day and I need a little time alone. It makes me a better mom.”
And then there are those like Tamara Kettler, whose idea of pure bliss is simply a day when nothing happens. “Nobody is crying, nobody is sick and there are no co-pays to worry about,” she says with a smile. “We are just happy and together.” Kettler, a nurse who is mother to a 9-year-old daughter and a 10-month-old son, will spend at least part of her day this year caring for patients. “With everything happening in the world, I feel so lucky that I have the capacity to do that. If my biggest worry is that I have to work on Mother’s Day helping people, I am pretty fortunate.”
Sara McKenna, mom to a 6-, 4- and 2-year-old, may have found the ideal way for the whole family to appreciate how special the second Sunday of May is. “If the last two years are any indication, we will be going to Worlds of Fun. It’s the one day a year that we go there,” she grins, “so the whole family looks forward to the day!”
We all have our own recipe for the perfect way to spend the date dedicated to mom. When my two sons were in that prefer-not-to-be-seen with me stage, they let their guard down one Mother’s Day and invited me to an amusement park — an interesting choice for a woman who fears heights more than spiders or snakes. Before I could say treetops, I was flying over them in gravity-defying contraptions with intimidating names. The louder my screams, the louder their laughter. It was a day I will treasure forever.
At some point we realize that it’s rarely the hoopla or expensive gifts that create the lasting memories. “It can be just a moment that happens to you with your children, when you stop, take a breath and say wow,” explains McKenna. “I try to take a mental picture of those times because before you know it, they will be gone.”
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