<![CDATA[Money Manners | The Kansas City Star & KansasCity.com]]> http://www.kansascity.com/living/star-magazine/money-manners/ en-us Wed, 30 Jul 2014 09:43:48 CDT http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss McClatchy Interactive's Escenic Wed, 30 Jul 2014 09:43:48 CDT Money Manners 60 Tuition fundraisers aren’t the new normal http://www.kansascity.com/living/star-magazine/money-manners/article10599602.html#storylink=rss DEAR JEANNE AND LEONARD: Friends have invited my sister to a “fundraiser spaghetti feed” to raise money for their daughter. The “door charge” is $20 per person, and there also will be a raffle and a silent auction. It seems that “Taylor,” who is 20, needs $8,200 for tuition and expenses to enroll in a program where she will earn a certificate as a dog obedience instructor. To me, this event is terrible on every level.

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Sat, 21 Feb 2015 06:00:00 CST

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Brother stole from mom, so make him pay it back http://www.kansascity.com/living/star-magazine/money-manners/article9692450.html#storylink=rss DEAR JEANNE AND LEONARD: After my father passed away in 2008, my brother Jake offered to take Dad and Mom’s life savings and invest it for Mom. Since our father had always taken care of their money, Mom was happy to have Jake’s help. Long story short, my brother lost his job and used all of Mom’s savings, about $95,000, to live on. When Mom could no longer afford to live in her own home, my husband and I took her in.

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Fri, 13 Feb 2015 06:00:00 CST

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Contact lawyer, not vindictive sister, about father’s trust http://www.kansascity.com/living/star-magazine/money-manners/article9216767.html#storylink=rss DEAR JEANNE AND LEONARD: My sister is mad at me because I wouldn’t give her what she claimed was “her share” of our mother’s ashes when Mom died. Now our father has died, and my sister, who’s his co-executor, is being vindictive.

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Sat, 07 Feb 2015 06:00:00 CST

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Get a lawyer to play hardball with ex-wife http://www.kansascity.com/living/star-magazine/money-manners/article7951953.html#storylink=rss Also: Why kids don’t have a right to see parents’ finances and how best to return extra donations for cat’s vet bills.

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Sat, 31 Jan 2015 09:00:00 CST

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Mom should not expect reimbursement for gifted bridesmaid dresses http://www.kansascity.com/living/star-magazine/money-manners/article7854363.html#storylink=rss Also: Who pays when a dog bites another dog; and a daugther who is financially overextended.

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Sat, 24 Jan 2015 06:00:00 CST

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If you know what’s detailed in trust, you’ll know what you’re due http://www.kansascity.com/living/star-magazine/money-manners/article6307029.html#storylink=rss DEAR JEANNE AND LEONARD: My grandparents put their home and farm into a living trust. After they died, the property was managed by my uncle, and my three siblings and I were supposed to inherit it when he died. Well, he passed three years ago, and my brother became the trustee, but not much else has happened. My siblings and I get a small check after each crop is sold, but my mother thinks we’re getting very little money compared with what the crops are worth. Meanwhile, my brother has never said anything about our inheritance.

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Sat, 17 Jan 2015 06:00:00 CST

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Be honest with in-laws about finances http://www.kansascity.com/living/star-magazine/money-manners/article5517876.html#storylink=rss DEAR JEANNE AND LEONARD: I own a piece of investment real estate, a house, that I recently rented to my mother-in-law. She’s living on a fixed income, so I’m charging her only half of what the place normally rents for. I made her promise, though, not to tell anyone about the sweetheart deal I’ve given her. That’s because my wife is one of eight children, and I don’t want the others thinking I’m made of money and coming to me with their hands out any more than they already do.

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Sat, 10 Jan 2015 06:00:00 CST

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It’s time for well-off sister to start paying for CPA services http://www.kansascity.com/living/star-magazine/money-manners/article5167782.html#storylink=rss DEAR JEANNE AND LEONARD: I’m a CPA, and every year I prepare my siblings’ and their spouses’ tax returns. I don’t charge them for the work I do, even though some of their returns are complicated and the paperwork they provide me with often is a mess. While I’m OK with preparing returns for my two siblings who don’t earn much, I don’t see why I should be preparing them for the one who in recent years has been making tons of money. Shouldn’t she and her husband at least be offering to pay me?

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Sat, 03 Jan 2015 06:00:00 CST

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Being a good friend means not condoning humiliation by ex http://www.kansascity.com/living/star-magazine/money-manners/article4919496.html#storylink=rss DEAR JEANNE AND LEONARD: My good friend “Amy” recently went through a very ugly divorce. As it happens, the man she divorced and I are both members of a local young professionals organization, a group that’s important to my career. Because he cheated on her, then behaved very badly when she filed for divorce, Amy expects me to give her ex the cold shoulder whenever I see him.

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Sat, 27 Dec 2014 06:00:00 CST

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Share financial information if your relationship is serious http://www.kansascity.com/living/star-magazine/money-manners/article4502378.html#storylink=rss Also: Parents who loaned daughter money deserve their money back when asked; and a brother-in-law makes a crazy grief request of family.

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Sat, 20 Dec 2014 06:00:00 CST

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Teach children not to measure godparents’ love by gifts http://www.kansascity.com/living/star-magazine/money-manners/article4403609.html#storylink=rss DEAR JEANNE AND LEONARD: Two of my children have godparents who give them gifts at Christmas. The other child’s godparents do not give her a gift. How do we handle this? The children are 3 to 6 years old. — Wondering, Kansas City Metro

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Sat, 13 Dec 2014 06:00:00 CST

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To stay fair, stick with same gift amount for children, married or not http://www.kansascity.com/living/star-magazine/money-manners/article4259162.html#storylink=rss DEAR JEANNE AND LEONARD: I’ve always prided myself on being even and fair with my three children, so at Christmas I give each one the same amount of money. Now that two of them are married, I also give the same amount, several hundred dollars, to each of their spouses. I’m worried, though, that I’m not being fair to the unmarried child.

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Sat, 06 Dec 2014 06:00:00 CST

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Stick with friends who don’t complain at restaurants http://www.kansascity.com/living/star-magazine/money-manners/article4138979.html#storylink=rss DEAR JEANNE AND LEONARD: What should you do when someone you’re with insists on complaining in a restaurant? To me, making a scene is vulgar, and my husband and I would never complain about the service or question a check. Yet we have friends who don’t hesitate to do either when we dine out together. How should we handle the situation? We hate it!

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Sat, 29 Nov 2014 06:00:00 CST

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Chipping in for neighborhood projects isn’t just about money http://www.kansascity.com/living/star-magazine/money-manners/article4070786.html#storylink=rss A reader in Pennsylvania says every year, residents on the block where he and his wife recently bought a house celebrate the holidays in a big way. But he and his wife never make a big deal about Christmas and don’t want to spend our money on decorations. What should they do? Also: Why it’s OK to put mother’s care costs ahead of her promises to grandchildren and how to keep a birthday tradition now that friend is married.

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Real estate investor should find new partner http://www.kansascity.com/living/star-magazine/money-manners/article3799116.html#storylink=rss DEAR JEANNE AND LEONARD: For the past five years, a friend and I have made good money buying foreclosed-on houses from banks, fixing them up and then either selling them or renting them out. Last year, though, “Matt” got married, and now his wife, who manages a fitness center and who knows zero about real estate, insists on reviewing every decision we make. Matt and I never had trouble agreeing on what to buy or when to sell. But now he has to run everything by his wife.

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Sat, 15 Nov 2014 06:00:00 CST

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Heirs don’t necessarily have to be estate executors http://www.kansascity.com/living/star-magazine/money-manners/article3579016.html#storylink=rss DEAR JEANNE AND LEONARD: We have two sons and don’t know which one to choose as the executor for our estate. One lives locally but has family responsibilities that keep him busy, while the other has no family but lives out of state. Which one do you think we should appoint? By the way, neither is very good at managing investments or sensibly handling large sums of money, so their relative financial skills are not a reason to choose one over the other.

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Sat, 08 Nov 2014 06:00:00 CST

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Lingering group at cafe should tip for time taken, not just drinks http://www.kansascity.com/living/star-magazine/money-manners/article3439256.html#storylink=rss DEAR JEANNE AND LEONARD: I’m in a bicycling club, and we plan our Sunday rides so that we always wind up at a cafe. There, some of us order lunch, while others just have coffee drinks of one kind or another. I’ve noticed that the coffee drinkers generally tip 15 to 20 percent on their drinks, and to me that’s not enough, given that they’ve taken the table for over an hour. But no one else seems to think this is a problem. Am I wrong?

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Sat, 01 Nov 2014 07:00:00 CDT

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Apologize to boss for nephew’s behavior before it reflects on you http://www.kansascity.com/living/star-magazine/money-manners/article3223408.html#storylink=rss Also: Huge investment in son’s real estate loan means you need to be concerned first for money spent, not son’s feelings.

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Sat, 25 Oct 2014 07:00:00 CDT

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You can fix taking credit for brother’s gift to friend http://www.kansascity.com/living/star-magazine/money-manners/article2683562.html#storylink=rss Also: Get estate executor’s permission before deciding to pay yourself for property management; and why grandmother should no longer give money directly to grandchildren.

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Sat, 18 Oct 2014 07:00:00 CDT

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If you don’t like the string, then don’t take the gift http://www.kansascity.com/living/star-magazine/money-manners/article2570038.html#storylink=rss Also: How to divide hotel bill with a couple; and why roommate’s habit is inconsiderate

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Sat, 11 Oct 2014 07:00:00 CDT

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Don’t take even small amounts of money from friends for granted http://www.kansascity.com/living/star-magazine/money-manners/article2407926.html#storylink=rss Also: Beneficiaries of a trust must be notified by law; and a brother who needs to be more thankful, not pushy.

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Sat, 04 Oct 2014 07:00:00 CDT

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Middle ground possible in disagreement over irresponsible niece http://www.kansascity.com/living/star-magazine/money-manners/article2226623.html#storylink=rss Also: If you pay premium on brother’s burial insurance, you should own it; if deceased aunt left you estate to share with siblings, she trusted your judgment.

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Sat, 27 Sep 2014 07:00:00 CDT

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Son needs to take responsibility for car loan http://www.kansascity.com/living/star-magazine/money-manners/article2138061.html#storylink=rss Also: Why expensive gifts should be returned and a good stock tip means dinner, not a cut of the profits.

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Sat, 20 Sep 2014 07:00:00 CDT

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Freeloading sisters-in-law may only respond to a lawyer http://www.kansascity.com/living/star-magazine/money-manners/article2049465.html#storylink=rss Also: What to do if you don’t like the movie you bought a ticket to; and few recourses when deceased husband forgets to change beneficiary name

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Sat, 13 Sep 2014 07:00:00 CDT

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Dividing between four not same as between two http://www.kansascity.com/living/star-magazine/money-manners/article1342923.html#storylink=rss Also: Don’t let grandmother play power game and why friend is disgraceful for using daughter’s name to get cable.

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Sat, 06 Sep 2014 07:00:00 CDT

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Cousins causing a commotion over cottage http://www.kansascity.com/living/star-magazine/money-manners/article1303616.html#storylink=rss DEAR JEANNE AND LEONARD: I want out of the lakeside vacation cottage that I inherited from my grandfather. He left it to me a couple of years ago, with the request that I let my cousins use it, too. Well, between property taxes, utilities and maintenance costs, the place is very expensive to own.

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Sat, 30 Aug 2014 07:00:00 CDT

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Yes, you deserve your share of debt repaid to father’s estate http://www.kansascity.com/living/star-magazine/money-manners/article1258945.html#storylink=rss Also: How to help son’s girlfriend without making it awkward and why this couple need a financial planner

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Sat, 23 Aug 2014 07:00:00 CDT

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Don’t give advice about the return on the cost of law school until asked http://www.kansascity.com/living/star-magazine/money-manners/article1211116.html#storylink=rss Also: Help housecleaner out if you deny her an opportunity and ask brother for specific information about withholding parents’ estate

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Sat, 16 Aug 2014 07:00:00 CDT

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When cash changes hands, get a receipt http://www.kansascity.com/living/star-magazine/money-manners/article1133185.html#storylink=rss Also: Unborn descendants are usually not included in wills and tipping a chambermaid, even for one night’s stay, is warranted.

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Sat, 09 Aug 2014 07:00:00 CDT

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Teach grandson an etiquette lesson in facing problems http://www.kansascity.com/living/star-magazine/money-manners/article776557.html#storylink=rss DEAR JEANNE AND LEONARD: My grandson’s shyness is causing a problem. In May I gave him two checks, one for his birthday and one for his college graduation. When a month went by and the checks weren’t cashed, I emailed him and asked that he please cash them and let me know when he’d done so. He’s never replied, and the checks have never been cashed.

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