“I know someone who really likes you,” her friend Willie told Pam Jacobs that spring of 1971.
Pam, 18, wondered who, but Willie wouldn’t say. Three times, Willie mentioned Pam’s secret admirer. Finally, Pam learned to her surprise that Granvile O’Neal, 19, president of her senior class at Sumner High School in Kansas City, Kan., wanted to take her out.
“But he doesn’t know how to approach you,” Willie said.
Weeks later, Willie and Granvile spotted Pam and her girlfriends driving around. They followed the car and invited all the girls to Pizza Hut. Afterward, Granvile gave Pam a ride home. As Pam walked up to her house, Granvile ran after her and asked her out.
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Pam: “He was cute, kind and very outgoing.”
Granvile: “Pam was pretty with expressive eyes. I liked her quietness.”
The unfolding: Over several dates, they talked about their goals and dreams: Pam was going to business school and Granvile was a theater major in college. Both were older siblings from large families.
“As we grew closer, I felt I could achieve many of my goals with her,” Granvile says.
By the end of 1971, Pam was head over heels in love. By early 1972, Granvile knew he wanted to marry Pam.
The proposal and wedding: They discussed getting married but didn’t set a date. On Dec. 31, 1972, at a New Year’s Eve party, Granvile reached under the table and slipped a ring on Pam’s hand. They were married Aug. 25, 1973, in Kansas City, Kan.
Favorite shared activities: They love to travel, attend theater and go out to dinner.
Careers and family: They live and worked in KCK. Pam worked in the special education department of the school district; Granvile served with the fire department. He is also an accomplished actor, appearing on stage and in television. They have three children and five grandchildren. Pam’s mom currently lives with them.
What keeps their relationship strong: They’re both active in church and believe God can take care of any situation. Their tips for a good marriage: Pray, work with each other, communicate.
The qualities they most appreciate in each other:
Granvile: “Pam sees things that I don’t and she balances me out. She’s a great woman, and I love spending time with her.”
Pam: “Granvile is funny, handsome, caring and a good provider. He’s a good man to have around.”
Deborah Shouse is a freelance writer. Suggest a Love Story couple by writing to firstname.lastname@example.org.