DEAR BILLY GRAHAM: All my life I’ve known my parents got divorced because of me. They were always arguing because I was a burden to them, and they wouldn’t have gotten divorced if I hadn’t been born. Why did God let this happen to me? — W.B.
DEAR W.B.: Divorce is never easy on children, and sometimes the burden they carry is almost overwhelming. This is one reason why God said divorce wasn’t part of his original plan for marriage. I often think of Jesus’ words concerning marriage: “Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate” (Mark 10:9).
But in your case you’ve carried an even greater emotional burden, and one you didn’t need to carry because it wasn’t based on the truth. Your parents alone were responsible for the problems in their marriage, and they alone (not you) were responsible for their divorce.
Any arguments about you were only a sign of far deeper troubles that had nothing to do with you. Frankly, they probably would have divorced sooner if you hadn’t become part of their lives.
The emotional scars you bear may not be erased easily, but I pray they will eventually, and they can, with God’s help. The key is to begin to see yourself as God sees you. God made you, and he loves you; he loves you so much that his son was willing to give his life so you could be with him in heaven forever. Your life will never be the same once you understand this.
Begin your healing today by asking Jesus Christ to come into your life. Then let his love saturate your soul every day, as you read the Bible, pray, and become part of a church where Christ is central. The Bible says, “Perfect love drives out fear” (1 John 4:18).
Write “My Answer,” Billy Graham Evangelistic Association, 1 Billy Graham Parkway, Charlotte, N.C., 28201; or go to BillyGraham.org.
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