Don’t let her short hair fool you

DEAR ABBY: I’m a 14-year-old girl with a problem. Because of my buzzed short hair, slim hips and flat chest, I frequently get mistaken for a boy. It really bothers me because, despite my haircut and body shape, I have a feminine face and I wear women’s clothes and makeup. I’m not too much of a tomboy.

Tell assistant to stop making rude comments

DEAR ABBY: How do I deal with an assistant who keeps calling me a “brown noser”? She did it again yesterday at a staff meeting in front of my boss and another assistant. It was the third time she has said it. She is gruff and rude, and several people have complained to me about her attitude.

DNA kits an unwelcome gift

DEAR MISS MANNERS: A family member recently arranged to have two DNA swab kits sent directly to my husband and me from a well-known scientific organization. The organization apparently is in the process of conducting a worldwide hereditary study.

Having four kids is hard enough without an alcoholic husband

DEAR ABBY: I am a 34-year-old wife and mother of four. I’m concerned about my husband. He is 44 and drinks at home every evening after work. I don’t mind him having a few cans of beer, but he drinks between six and 12 a day. He refuses to see a doctor for checkups or when he is sick. I am worried about his health.

We, like Judas, can be deceitful and betray Christ

DEAR BILLY GRAHAM: Why did Judas betray Jesus? It’s never made sense to me, because for years he’d been close to Jesus, hearing his teachings and seeing his miracles. And anyway, why did the authorities even need to find someone to betray Jesus? — D.M.

Does lying cheater deserve a reason for being dumped?

DEAR ABBY: I have been in a long-distance relationship with “Victor” for several years. Recently I began to suspect he was cheating. What raised my suspicion was that I suddenly couldn’t reach him on the weekends. Usually we would Skype: Sunday night for me, Monday morning for him.

Getting too close in the checkout line

DEAR MISS MANNERS: What is a kind and yet firm comment that I can say to the person in line after me at the cash register who invariably comes and stands next to my elbow while I’m using my credit/debit card?

Online ‘talk’ isn’t the same

DEAR ABBY: I recently exchanged pleasantries via email and text messaging with a lady I met on a website. One day later, I received a message from her stating she’d prefer our method of communication be kept to email and texting because she wasn’t much of a phone talker.

Treat service dogs — and their owners — with respect

DEAR ABBY: I use a service dog, and I’m constantly barraged with requests to pet him. Other people who use service dogs warned me this would happen. Although the ADA does not require him to wear a vest, I bought one for him that reads, “Do Not Pet,” which he wears in public. They ask me anyway!

Don’t put exercise ahead of family

DEAR BILLY GRAHAM: My wife gets after me because she says I spend too much time at the gym. I admit I do go there every day for several hours or so after work, but God wants us to take care of our bodies, doesn’t he? — M.J.

Yours, mine but not ours

DEAR ABBY: My wife and I were discussing our sons-in-law, and young men in their 20s and 30s in general. We were wondering where the attitude of “any money I earn is mine” in a marriage or live-in situation got started.

Some people need help conquering intimacy issues

DEAR ABBY: I’m a 27-year-old woman who has never had a boyfriend or been kissed. I was never interested in romance or having a significant other. I felt strong being independent and taking care of myself. Now that I have a degree, a career and a house, I feel ready to try to let a man into my life.

Transgender partner makes her friends uncomfortable

DEAR ABBY: I’m a divorced woman with grown children. I have always supported gay rights and thought of myself as straight. But a few months ago, I met a woman, “Stephanie.” We hit it off immediately, and I was shocked to learn she’s a transgender woman who was born male.

Pushing for extra party invitations

DEAR MISS MANNERS: My 13-year-old daughter goes to an elite prep school and gets invited to lots of swanky parties. Our neighbor, my daughter’s best friend since toddlerhood, goes to the local public school and spends lots of time at our house. I like her very much; however, the problem is my daughter thinks it is OK to “get her invited” to parties.

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