Yours, mine but not ours

DEAR ABBY: My wife and I were discussing our sons-in-law, and young men in their 20s and 30s in general. We were wondering where the attitude of “any money I earn is mine” in a marriage or live-in situation got started.

Some people need help conquering intimacy issues

DEAR ABBY: I’m a 27-year-old woman who has never had a boyfriend or been kissed. I was never interested in romance or having a significant other. I felt strong being independent and taking care of myself. Now that I have a degree, a career and a house, I feel ready to try to let a man into my life.

Transgender partner makes her friends uncomfortable

DEAR ABBY: I’m a divorced woman with grown children. I have always supported gay rights and thought of myself as straight. But a few months ago, I met a woman, “Stephanie.” We hit it off immediately, and I was shocked to learn she’s a transgender woman who was born male.

Pushing for extra party invitations

DEAR MISS MANNERS: My 13-year-old daughter goes to an elite prep school and gets invited to lots of swanky parties. Our neighbor, my daughter’s best friend since toddlerhood, goes to the local public school and spends lots of time at our house. I like her very much; however, the problem is my daughter thinks it is OK to “get her invited” to parties.

No words can soothe the pain of losing a child

DEAR ABBY: My 1-year-old baby recently passed away. I have two other children, one with special needs. I find it irritating and not at all comforting when people tell me that “at least I have other children and that I should concentrate on them.”

Tears don’t equal real grieving

DEAR ABBY: I’m 15. Yesterday, they told our class that one of my friend’s parents had died suddenly. Every single person in our grade cried, except for me. I felt bad about not crying for my friend’s loss, but I just didn’t.

Being a wise mother-in-law can be challenging

DEAR BILLY GRAHAM: How can I be a good mother-in-law? Our son got married a few months ago and they live fairly near us. It’s hard for me not to call them every day, but I don’t want to be an interfering mother-in-law. How can I avoid this but still let them know I care? — R.J.

More thoughts on second kids

DEAR ABBY: “Maybe Only One in Georgia,” who asked whether she should have a second child, needs to understand there are no guarantees. Her 5-year-old could end up hating her younger sibling or adoring her. Parents create a child because they want to share their union with a new life. Each child is unique and represents a life commitment, not just 18 years of hard work.

Helping the poor is always worthwhile

DEAR BILLY GRAHAM: Do you think we’ll ever do away with poverty? I heard someone say we could do it if we just tried hard enough, but didn’t Jesus say somewhere that there would always be poor people? I can’t imagine living the way millions do in some parts of the world. — V.M.

Tempted by guys who bring trouble

DEAR ABBY: I have been with my current boyfriend for a year and a half, and I love him dearly. However, I often find myself drawn to other guys who I know are nothing but trouble. It never goes further than simple flirting, but I still feel guilty for doing it when I’m in a relationship. How do I keep myself from temptation? — Hard to Resist

Daughters wanted control over the seniors’ wedding

DEAR MISS MANNERS: I am 78, my husband is 85. We fell in love and married last year, and now his 60-year-old daughters are complaining that they never got to plan the wedding for their daddy — and they say they are “family,” and that he needs to choose to be with family or with me.

We should seek to be like Jesus rather than celebrities

DEAR BILLY GRAHAM: Recently, my high school newspaper asked a number of students who they wanted to be like. Almost without exception they named famous musicians, athletes or other celebrities. Why are we so absorbed with celebrities today? Or have we always been? I would have named Jesus if they’d asked me. — M.M.

These readers have foolish problems

DEAR READERS: It’s April Fools’ Day, the one day I can share some of the more unique letters that come my way — clearly, more than a few of which were written in an attempt to have some fun with me. Enjoy!

Pregnant sister wants to keep it classy

DEAR MISS MANNERS: My sister eloped and quickly became pregnant. They had intended to announce the marriage to family with a spring visit and small celebration, but instead shared all the news after her first trimester of pregnancy.