DEAR ABBY: Would you please remind your readers that people who have been through an awful divorce DO NOT want to hear anything about their ex? We don’t want to hear again and again how much better the ex did in the settlement than we did. We don’t want to hear that the ex was seen with his girlfriend the other day.
I have a friend who tells me every time I speak with her how much better he made out in the settlement than I did. People also need to realize that even though the divorce was years ago, it still hurts. — Hurting in Massachusetts
Trauma’s effects remain
Now, even though I’m out of the situation, I still get scared when people yell at me, or at school when someone raises their hands like they are about to hit me. Everyone tells me I need to “grow up,” but how am I supposed to do that when I’m still scared of my past? —– Can’t Get Past It
Problems with a pup
They think I’m going to give in because she’s so cute, but I don’t like little animals running, jumping and yapping. (OK, I’m high-strung, and holidays make it worse.) My husband doesn’t support me and tries to sneak Puddles in when I’m not looking.
This is not fair! I’m the one who keeps the house nice, but I love my son. Any suggestions? — Particular in Ohio