Q: Our son and his wife have blessed us with a darling 6-year-old granddaughter, “Sophie,” who is the love of our lives. We live nearby and are very close.
When we received her kindergarten school photo, she had on heavy lipstick and light eye shadow. My husband and I couldn’t contain our shock. Her parents said they thought she looked beautiful, and Sophie was made up that way because “she wanted to.” We were speechless.
When we pick her up on weekends, she sometimes wears makeup, too. It makes her look like a 30-year-old. We think that wearing it while playing dress-up is fun, but doing it outside the home takes away from her natural beauty. What are your thoughts on this? — Taken Aback in Kansas
And when Sophie spends the weekend with you, don’t you think YOU should make the rules about whether she’s allowed to wear makeup? Someone has to draw the line, but when you do, be prepared for some battles.
The week after she passed, my husband did not stay home even one day with me. It was the loneliest, saddest time I have ever experienced. I feel he should have stayed with me without my having to ask him. He says all I had to do was ask.
Frankly, I don’t think it was up to me to ask to be comforted. Who do you think is right? — Grieving in Clearwater, Fla.
It is sad that you and your husband have such a poor level of communication. You should not have had to ask him to remain by your side in your hour of need. He promised to do that at the altar, and from where I sit, he failed you.
Am I wrong? I can understand not wanting husbands on an all-girl trip, but am I not the exception? — Out of the Loop in Alberta, Canada
A: No. This trip is for cousins only; no spouses. Although all the other spouses are men, you are not a cousin, so stop looking for reasons to be hurt. My advice is to let it go.