What is the correct thing for children (and adults) to do when they do not want to eat what they have been served?
What did the mother expect you to do? Take it back and apologize for the bad service?
Of course they should have been instructed — preferably before they went out to dinner — simply to leave the food uneaten and say nothing.Risking marriage over table manners
DEAR MISS MANNERS: My fiancee and I are debating about proper eating manners:
(1) Do I have to keep my mouth shut while chewing my food?
(2) Can I keep both or one elbow on the table while I eat?
And here are two questions:
(1) Do you want to have a happy marriage?
(2) Are you really interested in knowing how many mealtimes of watching you eat crudely (and remembering that you would not grant a simple request to improve) it will take to affect your fiancee’s romantic feelings?Upset about cousins with same names
DEAR MISS MANNERS: I have a 6-year-old son, and my husband’s brother has a 1-year-old boy. We live in two different countries. Still, we meet every year when we visit my mother-in-law, as they live with her.
They named their son my boy’s name. I was so devastated to hear that, and I gently told his wife how I feel. But her husband and elder daughter and even my mother-in-law won’t allow a change.
Both kids always get confused to hear the name, and I feel so sad every time I tell mine, “It’s not you.” My mother-in-law always is on the other brother’s side and doesn’t care about my son at all. Last vacation I didn’t stay there for long as I cannot stand the ego of these people.
Am I overreacting? I am learning to ignore and live with it. Still, please let me know how would you handle a situation like this.
If the cousin is already a year old, it’s unlikely his family will change what they call him to appease relatives whom they only see once a year.
However, Miss Manners has heard that children often acquire nicknames. Perhaps you can invent one for your nephew. If you make it charming and affectionate enough, it may catch on.
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