It was delicious, but he drank only a few sips and went into the kitchen and poured his almost-full glass down the drain right in front of me!
Another time, I brought to his house a well-regarded, expensive wine that I had hand-carried back from a visit to a winery in South Africa. He hardly tasted it, and after dinner I took the open bottle back home rather than have him dump this one too.
We may have different tastes in wine, but I’m thinking that I should not waste my generosity and hospitality on this boor. I should add that he and his wife are often loud and drunk. Am I overreacting?
Well, if you really need Miss Manners to tell you that your neighbors are not ideal drinking companions, she cannot say that your reactions are sharp. Nor are your neighbors’ reactions likely to be, if they are in the habit of over-sampling their product.
You cannot decrease the geographical proximity of your neighbors, but you can increase the social distance. Reducing it to an occasional wave from across the fence should be about right. But first you will have to let go of the idea of impressing them with your knowledge of wine.Co-workers ask about her breasts
DEAR MISS MANNERS: I underwent a breast augmentation surgery during the summer, when I was off work anyway for holidays, so I didn’t need to explain to any co-workers why I wasn’t at work. Some friends and family were aware before, but otherwise I consider it a completely private matter.
I’m surprised to find how many acquaintances and co-workers have asked me about my breasts. (It was a modest increase and I dress very modestly as well, although even if I didn’t, I don’t think that would excuse them from asking.)
Is there some way I can save face in front of people when they ask me if I’m on a new birth control, wearing a new bra or if I’ve had surgery? I don’t want to lie, but I also feel like it’s none of their business.
Really? You feel that the size of your breasts is none of your co-workers’ business?
In that case, Miss Manners would expect you to have a bit more conviction about rebuffing these inquiries. They do not arise from compassionate concern about your health. They are lewd, as well as nosy, and the correct response is nothing more than a frosty “I beg your pardon!” followed by a silent stare. Far from being meant literally, those words are an indication that the questioners should beg yours.
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