Who uses Ernest Hemingway as an example of a good husband?
01/22/2014 6:17 PM
01/22/2014 6:17 PM
He texts women and tries to hide it from me. I found out he was texting his first ex-wife. It made me uncomfortable, so I asked him to stop. He didn’t. When I realized he hadn’t, I told him I would leave if it happens again. This kind of behavior has been going on for more than half our marriage.
I am at the point where I don’t want to cuddle or be affectionate with him at all. He commented the other day that he should be allowed to have an affair because I mentioned that I find Hemingway interesting. (He was known for affairs.)
I’m at a loss. I care for my husband and don’t want to hurt him. But I’m also scared that I can’t afford to be on my own. A little advice? — Unsure in Washington
Hemingway was also known for his drinking and big game hunting. Is your husband considering doing those things, too?
If ever I heard of a couple who could benefit from marriage counseling, it’s you two. As it stands, your marriage is broken. Counseling may help. If it doesn’t and you don’t have a job, find one and figure out a way to cut your expenses so you can afford to be on your own, because it looks like you will be.Reckless customer
DEAR ABBY: I am an esthetician who works as a waxing specialist. A customer of mine came in a short while ago and admitted to driving to my salon while drunk. She mentioned she had almost crashed her car getting here, and I could smell the liquor on her breath.
She is one of my regular customers, but I am very against drunk driving. How would I professionally handle this? I wanted to report it, but I didn’t know what car she was driving or where she was headed. How should this be handled in the future? — Conflicted in San Francisco
Because you know the woman well, you might say, “You nearly crashed your car getting here. I care about you too much to let you drive home like this. I’m calling you a taxi. Pick up your car tomorrow.”
When she’s sober again and comes in for her next appointment, tell her how worried you were about her. There are two ways to lose a customer. One is by offending her. The other is by letting her kill herself behind the wheel because she’s so drunk she can’t see straight. So let your conscience guide you.Nagging neighbor
DEAR ABBY: I have a condition that causes constant migraines. A new neighbor heard about my illness and is determined to become my second mother. She continually tries to visit, call and text even though my husband and I have asked her not to.
I dislike hurting people. How can I get her to stop her stalker-ish behavior without making this old lady my enemy? — My Other Headache’s a Neighbor
DEAR OTHER HEADACHE:
Stop asking and tell this well-meaning woman that she’s making your condition worse by continuing to call, text and visit. And while you’re at it, tell her that when you’re ready for company, you will contact her, but only when you’re feeling well enough to chat. If she persists after that, don’t answer her calls and refuse her visits.
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