Q: I was at a restaurant with friends, and we were served by a waiter who spoke my native language. We had a quick conversational aside in our language, just a friendly exchange.
As a rule, I never have conversations in my native language in front of people who don’t understand it because it’s rude. But in this case, because of the way the conversation with the waiter came about, it just felt like a friendly gesture between two people who were surprised and happy to learn they had something in common. In doing this, was I rude to my friends?
I think this type of request is highly inappropriate and somewhat annoying. I would understand if the child had some sort of serious illness and it was presented as a wish. However, the child in question is perfectly healthy and does not have any sort of disability.
What are your thoughts on this? Is it OK to ask random online acquaintances for donations to fund one’s vacation?
Judith Martin writes the Miss Manners column with help from her son, Nicholas Ivor Martin, and her daughter, Jacobina Martin. Send your questions to Miss Manners at her website, MissManners.com; or through postal mail to Miss Manners, Universal Uclick, 1130 Walnut St., Kansas City, MO 64106.