Q: I’m 57 and have been married for 25 years. My husband has retired and is ready for me to do the same. I enjoy my work, and I am delaying my retirement because he wants to move to another state.
Abby, all I can think about is how I will be forced to start all over with a new church, new doctors, new friends, etc. That’s incredibly stressful for me, and I don’t want to do it. It takes me a while to warm up to people, and I don’t do it easily. To me, it would not be an exciting adventure.
I have told him I don’t want to do this and why. He responds that if I want to visit my friends I can always “hop on a plane.” He said he’s tired of the cold and wants to move. All I can think about is having to sell our home, buy another one, learn a new area, make friends, find a new church. I have all of that here. Maybe he should be a snowbird? — Don’t Want to Start Anew