<![CDATA[Advice Columns | The Kansas City Star & KansasCity.com]]> http://www.kansascity.com/living/advice-columns/ en-us Thu, 22 Jan 2015 08:23:38 CST http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss McClatchy Interactive's Escenic Thu, 22 Jan 2015 08:23:38 CST Advice Columns 60 Dear Abby: Should she try to reconcile with dying grandmother? http://www.kansascity.com/living/advice-columns/article20271186.html#storylink=rss A reader from Kansas wonders whether to make one last attempt to reconcile with a cold, mean grandmother who has been diagnosed with cancer.

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Wed, 06 May 2015 07:00:00 CDT

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Billy Graham: To meditate effectively, focus on God’s truth http://www.kansascity.com/living/liv-columns-blogs/billy-graham/article20254941.html#storylink=rss Truth drives out that which is false, and there’s no greater or more reliable truth than the truth of God’s word, the Bible. This is why I urge people to read a portion of the Bible every day — and not only read it, but also meditate on what it means and how it applies to their life.

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Wed, 06 May 2015 12:35:00 CDT

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Dear Abby: Jump off the relationship roller coaster http://www.kansascity.com/living/advice-columns/article20198691.html#storylink=rss DEAR ABBY: My boyfriend of 10 years, “Scott,” and I separated last year. I was pregnant and hormonal at the time, and I told him we would never get back together. We went a month without contact, then reconnected. While Scott was in the process of working things out with me, he had a girlfriend. When our daughter was born five months later, he told me he was done with the other woman. I recently found some old messages between them, and my heart shattered all over again.

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Tue, 05 May 2015 07:00:00 CDT

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Miss Manners: Restaurant servers aren’t mind readers http://www.kansascity.com/living/advice-columns/article20199006.html#storylink=rss I’m one spouse in a biracial, same-sex marriage. It really rips me when waitpersons don’t pick up on the fact that my husband and I are a couple (let alone spouses) and ask us whether we want separate checks.

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Tue, 05 May 2015 07:00:00 CDT

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Billy Graham: Worship shouldn’t be a spectator sport http://www.kansascity.com/living/liv-columns-blogs/billy-graham/article20198535.html#storylink=rss We worship best when we worship together with other believers, if at all possible. Jesus regularly attended public worship, the Bible tells us, as did the Apostle Paul.

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Tue, 05 May 2015 12:27:00 CDT

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Dear Abby: Parents disapprove of daughters’ living arrangements http://www.kansascity.com/living/advice-columns/article20201055.html#storylink=rss My wife and I have a special bond with our amazing daughters. However, recently they have moved in with their longtime boyfriends.

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Mon, 04 May 2015 07:00:00 CDT

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Miss Manners: Rudeness pushes this tenant’s buttons http://www.kansascity.com/living/advice-columns/article20206971.html#storylink=rss When fellow apartment tenants enter the elevator behind me, I typically ask their floor number and push the buttons for them. But one woman barked her floor number at me the moment we entered the elevator, without a “please” or “thank you.” I was stunned by her rudeness.

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Mon, 04 May 2015 07:00:00 CDT

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Billy Graham: Seek a close relationship with God http://www.kansascity.com/living/liv-columns-blogs/billy-graham/article20201694.html#storylink=rss On the cross, Jesus Christ (who was without sin) took upon himself all our sins, and by his resurrection he conquered our greatest enemy, which is death. Because of this, we can have hope for God’s transforming power in our lives right now, and hope for eternal life in heaven.

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Mon, 04 May 2015 12:21:00 CDT

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Dear Abby: Woman longs for boyfriend’s affection http://www.kansascity.com/living/advice-columns/article20017014.html#storylink=rss DEAR ABBY: My boyfriend and I both have professional careers and are independent. We have been in a committed relationship for eight years now. If I ask him if he loves me, he tells me I shouldn’t be insecure and needy. I told him hearing the words mean a lot to me, but the words seem to have been deleted from his vocabulary. Any suggestions on how I can get him to understand how I need to hear it from him?

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Sun, 03 May 2015 07:00:00 CDT

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Billy Graham: True Christians seek to be more like Christ http://www.kansascity.com/living/liv-columns-blogs/billy-graham/article20011092.html#storylink=rss If someone is sincerely committed to Jesus Christ, it will make a difference in the way he or she lives. It may only be in small ways at first, but over time that person’s life will be different because Christ now lives within them. The Bible says, “Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, the new creation has come” (2 Corinthians 5:17).

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Sun, 03 May 2015 12:12:00 CDT

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Billy Graham: The Bible has much to say about our spending habits http://www.kansascity.com/living/liv-columns-blogs/billy-graham/article20359800.html#storylink=rss Learn from the past, and don’t make the same mistakes six months from now! Limit your current spending also, and do all you can to get out of debt, and stay out.

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Wed, 06 May 2015 19:00:00 CDT

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Dear Abby: Boss’ unwelcome advances make first job uncomfortable http://www.kansascity.com/living/advice-columns/article20020986.html#storylink=rss DEAR ABBY: I’m 16 and just got my first job working in food services. I have been working here for about two months and have grown close with my co-worker “Samantha” and my boss. Samantha quit suddenly a few days ago. Today she told me our boss had told her he had strong feelings for her. He’s married with kids. I am now very uncomfortable being there, but I still want to continue working for the experience and to save money for college. I’m not sure what to do.

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Fri, 01 May 2015 07:00:00 CDT

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Billy Graham: You can find God through Christ http://www.kansascity.com/living/liv-columns-blogs/billy-graham/article19995846.html#storylink=rss I invite you to read the story of Jesus for yourself, as it’s found in the first four books of the New Testament. Tell God honestly that you don’t even know if he exists or if he cares about you, but if he does, you want him to prove it as you read about Jesus.

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Fri, 01 May 2015 07:00:00 CDT

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Dear Abby: Be on the alert for Lyme disease http://www.kansascity.com/living/advice-columns/article19878267.html#storylink=rss May is Lyme disease awareness month. I have suffered from it for many years. More than 300,000 people are infected by this tick-borne illness every year, yet people know little about it.

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Thu, 30 Apr 2015 07:00:00 CDT

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Miss Manners: Crowded out of her own apartment http://www.kansascity.com/living/advice-columns/article19878558.html#storylink=rss I live in an apartment with three other girls, all of whom are in romantic relationships. Each of them feels the need for constant “alone time” with her significant other and this leaves no place for me to relax or even sleep.

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Thu, 30 Apr 2015 07:00:00 CDT

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Billy Graham: Seek God’s wisdom when facing problems http://www.kansascity.com/living/liv-columns-blogs/billy-graham/article19877241.html#storylink=rss We can’t possibly see all the alternatives; we may not even understand our motives. But God sees the whole situation, and he knows what is best for us. The Bible says, “As for God, his way is perfect” (Psalm 18:30).

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Thu, 30 Apr 2015 07:00:00 CDT

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Dear Abby: Successful, active and charitable but feeling unfulfilled http://www.kansascity.com/living/advice-columns/article19919325.html#storylink=rss DEAR ABBY: I’m 45, employed and earning plenty of money. I’m in a great relationship, my kids and grandkids are healthy and happy, and my parents are alive and well. But I’m not really sure what my purpose is in life. What is normal for my age? Should I be doing more? Most times I feel happy, but on a day like today I feel unfulfilled. Do I need to do more?

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Wed, 29 Apr 2015 07:00:00 CDT

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Billy Graham: Be patient and loving toward ‘difficult’ people http://www.kansascity.com/living/liv-columns-blogs/billy-graham/article19733661.html#storylink=rss Ask God to help you not react to whatever your sister says or does in anger or with sharp words. Instead, go out of your way to be kind to her, and to express an interest in what’s happening in her life.

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Tue, 28 Apr 2015 07:00:00 CDT

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Miss Manners: Speaker mode in a business setting seems rude http://www.kansascity.com/living/advice-columns/article19729902.html#storylink=rss There is a business manager at work who always answers and keeps his phone in speaker mode. He does not do that to his boss — just everyone else.

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Tue, 28 Apr 2015 08:10:00 CDT

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Dear Abby: Acetone-sniffing mom worries daughter http://www.kansascity.com/living/advice-columns/article19733025.html#storylink=rss DEAR ABBY: I’m a 17-year-old girl and I caught my mom sniffing nail polish remover. She obviously doesn’t want me to know because she tries to hide it. I don’t know what to do. I don’t know why she would want to do this. It’s something people MY age would do. I know better than to do that.

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Dear Abby: Twice-divorced man wants to stop his cheating http://www.kansascity.com/living/advice-columns/article19742235.html#storylink=rss I have been married twice. My first marriage lasted 20 years, the second one about four years. My problem is, I can’t seem to stop cheating on my spouse.

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Mon, 27 Apr 2015 07:00:00 CDT

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Miss Manners: Sending random cards is more creepy than kind http://www.kansascity.com/living/advice-columns/article19750230.html#storylink=rss My aunt makes nice greeting cards as a hobby and has more than she can use. I suggested she mail them to random people in the phone book.

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Mon, 27 Apr 2015 07:00:00 CDT

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Billy Graham: The future is in God’s benevolent hands http://www.kansascity.com/living/liv-columns-blogs/billy-graham/article19840998.html#storylink=rss That’s why we don’t need to live in constant fear or anxiety. Someday, the Bible says, Christ will come again to establish his kingdom of perfect righteousness and justice. Is your hope and trust in him?

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Mon, 27 Apr 2015 07:00:00 CDT

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Billy Graham: It’s time to abandon your distorted view of God http://www.kansascity.com/living/liv-columns-blogs/billy-graham/article19401303.html#storylink=rss God is holy and just, and sin is an offense to him, but God is also loving and merciful. The most important thing I can tell you is that God loves you far more than you and I will ever love him.

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Sun, 26 Apr 2015 07:00:00 CDT

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Dear Abby: Should teen share personal trauma with new boyfriend? http://www.kansascity.com/living/advice-columns/article19398534.html#storylink=rss DEAR ABBY: I’m a 16-year-old girl, just starting to dip my toes into the dating scene. I am becoming close with a guy who lives near me. I want to open up to him, but my childhood was traumatic. I don’t want to “unload my baggage” too early and scare him away, but if we are going to commit to each other, I feel it’s important for him to know. When is a good point in the relationship to tell him, or in future relationships as well?

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Fri, 24 Apr 2015 07:00:00 CDT

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Billy Graham: Ask God to help you focus on a hopeful future http://www.kansascity.com/living/liv-columns-blogs/billy-graham/article19378806.html#storylink=rss Start looking to the future instead of the past. If you dwell on the past you’ll always be caught in an emotional prison of anger and hate.

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Fri, 24 Apr 2015 07:00:00 CDT

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Dear Abby: Parents object to her plans for breast enhancements http://www.kansascity.com/living/advice-columns/article19220376.html#storylink=rss I am 23 years old, working full time as a teacher and I’m about to move out of my parents’ house. I have decided to have breast augmentation surgery.

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Thu, 23 Apr 2015 07:00:00 CDT

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Miss Manners: ‘How are you?’ is just a pleasantry http://www.kansascity.com/living/advice-columns/article19220658.html#storylink=rss I’m so tired of the question, “How are you?” I’m so tired of choking out “Good” that I’m planning to start taking these impositions as an invitation to unload my mind.

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Thu, 23 Apr 2015 07:00:00 CDT

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Billy Graham: Don’t underestimate the wages of sin or God’s love http://www.kansascity.com/living/liv-columns-blogs/billy-graham/article19219914.html#storylink=rss God doesn’t judge us for what someone else did; we alone are responsible for our sin, and we alone will stand before God to give an account of what we’ve done. The Bible solemnly warns, “The one who sins is the one who will die” (Ezekiel 18:4).

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Dear Abby: Son, daughter-in-law have grown too dependent on woman http://www.kansascity.com/living/advice-columns/article19155957.html#storylink=rss DEAR ABBY: My son “Rick” and daughter-in-law “Amy” seem to really dislike me. I try to be kind and not pry, but they live with me, and it can make for a full house. They have had job difficulties and work injuries that brought them back to my home. Her parents don’t care for my son, so living there was not an option.

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Wed, 22 Apr 2015 07:00:00 CDT

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