<![CDATA[Advice Columns | The Kansas City Star & KansasCity.com]]> http://www.kansascity.com/living/advice-columns/ en-us Thu, 22 Jan 2015 08:23:38 CST http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss McClatchy Interactive's Escenic Thu, 22 Jan 2015 08:23:38 CST Advice Columns 60 Dear Abby: She loves his daughters but still says nasty things about their mom http://www.kansascity.com/living/advice-columns/article32649162.html#storylink=rss My kids are my world, Abby. I love Ellen, but I refuse to lose my kids because my fiancee can’t control her mouth.

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Fri, 28 Aug 2015 03:00:00 CDT

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Billy Graham: Feelings of guilt is first step to seeking God’s forgiveness http://www.kansascity.com/living/liv-columns-blogs/billy-graham/article32640015.html#storylink=rss Jesus Christ didn’t wait until we were perfect to give his life for us. The Bible says, “God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us” (Romans 5:8).

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Thu, 27 Aug 2015 03:00:00 CDT

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Dear Abby: She’s wedded to her electronic devices http://www.kansascity.com/living/advice-columns/article32313537.html#storylink=rss DEAR ABBY: My wife and I have been married 22 years, and we had a good marriage until recently. Over the last three years she has become more and more consumed with her phone and tablet. She goes nowhere and does nothing without them. If I ask what she’s doing or who she’s texting, she accuses me of being controlling and not trusting her. What should I do?

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Wed, 26 Aug 2015 03:00:00 CDT

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Billy Graham: God yearns to forgive your past wrongs http://www.kansascity.com/living/liv-columns-blogs/billy-graham/article32310540.html#storylink=rss The only person God can never forgive is the person who refuses to seek his forgiveness. The Bible says, “Let them turn to the Lord, and he will have mercy on them, and to our God, for he will freely pardon” (Isaiah 55:7).

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Wed, 26 Aug 2015 03:00:00 CDT

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Dear Abby: He doesn’t want sex and she doesn’t know why http://www.kansascity.com/living/advice-columns/article32174655.html#storylink=rss DEAR ABBY: The wedding night I had dreamed about forever was supposed to be the most romantic and amazing of my life with the one person I can’t live without. Instead, it was the most humiliating experience I have ever had.  I dream of a man who loves me so much he stares at me from across the room, who can’t wait to get his hands on me even if it’s just for a second. Unfortunately, that’s not my marriage. Don’t I deserve happiness? And will this ever change?

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Tue, 25 Aug 2015 03:00:00 CDT

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Miss Manners: A name tag doesn’t invite personal questions http://www.kansascity.com/living/advice-columns/article32143857.html#storylink=rss Sometimes I see customers peer at a service employee’s name tag and ask them how they are doing by name. This strikes me as condescending and presumptuous.

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Tue, 25 Aug 2015 03:00:00 CDT

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Billy Graham: Medicine and faith can both bring healing http://www.kansascity.com/living/liv-columns-blogs/billy-graham/article32171391.html#storylink=rss It’s wrong to assume that medicine and faith are necessarily opposed to each other, or that illness is only a result of a lack of faith.

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Tue, 25 Aug 2015 03:00:00 CDT

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Dear Abby: Wife brings intense job home http://www.kansascity.com/living/advice-columns/article32239041.html#storylink=rss My wife is a pediatric physical therapist. She brings home some emotional, intense stories, and sometimes I just don’t want to hear them.

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Mon, 24 Aug 2015 15:52:37 CDT

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Miss Manners: Politely, but firmly, saying goodnight http://www.kansascity.com/living/advice-columns/article32167911.html#storylink=rss I would appreciate some suggestions as to how a guest should express to a host her desire to leave a small dinner party at which she’s had a very nice time — but it’s getting late, and she’d like to go home!

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Mon, 24 Aug 2015 03:00:00 CDT

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Billy Graham: Give your worries to God http://www.kansascity.com/living/liv-columns-blogs/billy-graham/article32165403.html#storylink=rss People who worry all the time end up riddled with anxiety and stress and often make life difficult for those around them. On the other hand, people who never think about the future easily end up with troubles they could have prevented.

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Mon, 24 Aug 2015 03:00:00 CDT

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Dear Abby: Wife doesn’t know what to do about cheating husband http://www.kansascity.com/living/advice-columns/article31815123.html#storylink=rss DEAR ABBY: I’m nearly 100 percent sure my husband is cheating on me. I tracked him a couple of times using the GPS on his phone and saw he wasn’t where he told me he would be. I know he has a female acquaintance who lives in the general area of where he was, so I did a little investigating. Sure enough, she lives exactly where he was. I don’t know whether to confront him now or wait to try to catch him at her house so there will be no denying it.

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Sun, 23 Aug 2015 03:00:00 CDT

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Billy Graham: God loves us in spite of our sins http://www.kansascity.com/living/liv-columns-blogs/billy-graham/article31818273.html#storylink=rss DEAR BILLY GRAHAM: Since God supposedly knows everything, does this mean he also knows our inner thoughts? Can he look inside our minds and know what we’re thinking? I find that kind of scary, because I’m not sure I want God to know some of the things that go through my mind.

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Sun, 23 Aug 2015 03:00:00 CDT

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Miss Manners: Avoid close shaves while walking down the street http://www.kansascity.com/living/advice-columns/article32466492.html#storylink=rss I walk to work and like to make productive use of the 15 minutes by shaving with an electric razor as I go. My wife tells me this is totally socially unacceptable.

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Thu, 27 Aug 2015 03:00:00 CDT

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Billy Graham: With Christ, you can be sure of salvation http://www.kansascity.com/living/liv-columns-blogs/billy-graham/article32466042.html#storylink=rss Our salvation doesn’t depend on us; if it did, no one could ever be saved. The reason may startle you, but it’s very important for you to understand: God’s standard is nothing less than perfection.

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Thu, 27 Aug 2015 03:00:00 CDT

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Dear Abby: Alterations to borrowed wedding dress infuriate original bride http://www.kansascity.com/living/advice-columns/article32461746.html#storylink=rss Can you please help me understand the rule of etiquette when borrowing a wedding dress? The owner was fully aware that the bride intended to alter it.

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Thu, 27 Aug 2015 03:00:00 CDT

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Dear Abby: Teen feeling unsure of herself in coming out to family and friends http://www.kansascity.com/living/advice-columns/article31773258.html#storylink=rss DEAR ABBY: I am a lesbian, still in high school, who has not yet come out to any friends or family. I want them to know, but I’m afraid to tell them. I’m pretty sure this is who I am, and I don’t want them to dismiss my identity. I also don’t want them to think of me differently — I want to be the same person in their eyes as I was before I came out. They aren’t homophobic to my knowledge, but I feel “stuck.” I have fairly bad social anxiety, so it’s difficult for me to say anything. I’d be grateful for any advice you have.

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Fri, 21 Aug 2015 03:00:00 CDT

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Billy Graham: The world needs a change of heart, which can only come from God http://www.kansascity.com/living/liv-columns-blogs/billy-graham/article31776969.html#storylink=rss The Bible promises us a better world when Jesus Christ comes again to establish his rule. In that day, all evil will be destroyed, and we will live in perfect justice and harmony.

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Fri, 21 Aug 2015 03:00:00 CDT

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Dear Abby: Doggone, pooch’s owner is found http://www.kansascity.com/living/advice-columns/article31529567.html#storylink=rss A co-worker found a dog and took it home. He didn’t make any effort to find the owner, so I posted an online ad and got a response.

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Thu, 20 Aug 2015 03:00:00 CDT

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Miss Manners: Donation is an insult instead of a gift http://www.kansascity.com/living/advice-columns/article31528634.html#storylink=rss My family donates to charity in my name instead of giving gifts. But lately one couple has begun donating to charities I want nothing to do with.

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Thu, 20 Aug 2015 03:00:00 CDT

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Billy Graham: We can always trust God to know and respond to our concerns http://www.kansascity.com/living/liv-columns-blogs/billy-graham/article31523441.html#storylink=rss We live in a world that’s been corrupted by sin and is also under the evil influence of Satan and his servants. By his death and resurrection Jesus Christ broke Satan’s power, but death is still with us, and only at the end of time as we know it will Satan be completely bound.

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Dear Abby: Boys need to get the message about birth control http://www.kansascity.com/living/advice-columns/article31393871.html#storylink=rss DEAR ABBY: My family has a history of women getting pregnant on purpose to get their boyfriends to marry them. I feel I should warn my nephews to make sure they use birth control so a similar thing won’t happen to them, but how should I go about it?

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Wed, 19 Aug 2015 03:00:00 CDT

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Billy Graham: Urge friend facing death to seek God http://www.kansascity.com/living/liv-columns-blogs/billy-graham/article31394177.html#storylink=rss Death is inevitable for every one of us, and you should not think your prayers have failed if it’s God’s time for your friend to depart this life. Pray, therefore, for God’s will to be done, trusting that his way is always best.

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Wed, 19 Aug 2015 04:55:00 CDT

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Dear Abby: Wife’s sex life is unsatisfying http://www.kansascity.com/living/advice-columns/article31304414.html#storylink=rss DEAR ABBY: My husband, “Sam,” and I have been married three years and have a good relationship. However, there is one thing I just don’t know what to do about. He had a rough divorce from his first wife, who was also the first woman he ever had sex with. Once we were married, I realized he has some big hang-ups about sex in general. I have expressed my need for more intimacy, but he acts like I’m being ridiculous or says he can’t make himself change something he’s comfortable with. How else can I approach this situation without making him feel bad?

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Tue, 18 Aug 2015 03:00:00 CDT

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Billy Graham: Introducing new church music can reach new people http://www.kansascity.com/living/liv-columns-blogs/billy-graham/article31303013.html#storylink=rss You may not like some of it, but others do, and God can use it in their lives to encourage them and bring them closer to Christ. Remember: The old hymns you like were once new, and someone probably didn’t like them, either!

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Tue, 18 Aug 2015 03:00:00 CDT

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Miss Manners: A nice suit is an acceptable substitute for a dress http://www.kansascity.com/living/advice-columns/article31304975.html#storylink=rss My family is attending a wedding for which women have been asked to wear dresses. My teenage granddaughter refuses and will wear a suit.

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Dear Abby: Her ‘soul mate’ considers her a ‘child murderer’ http://www.kansascity.com/living/advice-columns/article31340909.html#storylink=rss I confided to my boyfriend of two years that I had had an abortion many years ago that has haunted me. Recently he referred to me as a child murderer.

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Mon, 17 Aug 2015 03:00:00 CDT

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Miss Manners: Don’t make gift-card recipients guess http://www.kansascity.com/living/advice-columns/article31330721.html#storylink=rss DEAR MISS MANNERS: When giving gift cards, should you remove the card from the packaging? I have removed the tab that shows the amount, but the packaging has information related to expiration, etc.

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Mon, 17 Aug 2015 03:00:00 CDT

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Billy Graham: Giving to your church blesses others and you http://www.kansascity.com/living/liv-columns-blogs/billy-graham/article31330079.html#storylink=rss Don’t conclude that God doesn’t care whether or not you give, for he does. But the reason is because he wants to use you to bless others through your giving — and when you bless others, you yourself will be blessed.

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Dear Abby: Woman held in high esteem fears exposing imperfections http://www.kansascity.com/living/advice-columns/article31268840.html#storylink=rss DEAR ABBY: I met an amazing man and have been dating him for about three months. It was almost love at first sight. I say “almost” because I was hesitant to get involved since I am his boss. My problem is, for six years I was in an emotionally and physically abusive relationship. Now that I’m with this new guy, I feel awkward. How can I overcome this so it doesn’t become a problem in the future?

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Sun, 16 Aug 2015 03:00:00 CDT

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Billy Graham: Relaxation is not the same as spiritual renewal http://www.kansascity.com/living/liv-columns-blogs/billy-graham/article31268453.html#storylink=rss DEAR BILLY GRAHAM: I know you’re always telling people to go to church, but I’m very busy during the week and I need my weekends to relax. And anyway, I can feel God’s presence hiking in the woods as much as in some church. My wife disagrees, but I can’t see any reason to change.

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