<![CDATA[Advice Columns | The Kansas City Star & KansasCity.com]]> http://www.kansascity.com/living/advice-columns/ en-us Thu, 22 Jan 2015 08:23:38 CST http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss McClatchy Interactive's Escenic Thu, 22 Jan 2015 08:23:38 CST Advice Columns 60 Dear Abby: She’s through with men but son wants a dad http://www.kansascity.com/living/advice-columns/article21587616.html#storylink=rss DEAR ABBY: My son’s dad cheated on me for years, which resulted in a child with another woman. When I finally got the nerve to date and trust again, the new guy gave me herpes. Now I find myself repulsed at the thought of sex, and I have no intention of putting myself in the position of having to disclose this information to a new partner. I am content to never have sex again. The problem is, I have a young son who longs for a father and has asked on several occasions why I won’t get a boyfriend.

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Billy Graham: Rejection of God is not a strong foundation for marriage http://www.kansascity.com/living/liv-columns-blogs/billy-graham/article21588948.html#storylink=rss I suggest you also seek to discover why your boyfriend doesn’t want anything to do with God. Often, I’ve found, it’s simply because a person wants to run his or her own life, and doesn’t want God to interfere with whatever they want to do.

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Sun, 24 May 2015 12:22:00 CDT

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Dear Abby: Too busy for daily Facebook messages http://www.kansascity.com/living/advice-columns/article21664182.html#storylink=rss DEAR ABBY: I was a full-time summer nanny for several years for the same family, now a preteen boy and girl. I loved them and had a great time on the job. Both kids now are on Facebook, and I (foolishly) accepted their friend requests. The girl messages me almost daily with “Hey” or similar short things. I am unable to dedicate time to this kind of interaction even within my own age group, but I feel bad leaving so many messages unanswered.

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Fri, 22 May 2015 07:00:00 CDT

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Billy Graham: You can inspire complainer to be more positive and hopeful http://www.kansascity.com/living/liv-columns-blogs/billy-graham/article21606537.html#storylink=rss Sometimes things do go wrong, but not always, and you could point out examples from the past that show this. You could also take the initiative, not waiting for her to come up with something negative, but expressing hope and optimism.

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Fri, 22 May 2015 12:14:00 CDT

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Dear Abby: Pregnant alcoholic wants to quit drinking http://www.kansascity.com/living/advice-columns/article21495990.html#storylink=rss I just realized I’m six weeks pregnant. I have always wanted to start a family, but I have a big problem. I am an alcoholic.

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Thu, 21 May 2015 07:00:00 CDT

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Miss Manners: How do you greet someone on a somber holiday like Memorial Day? http://www.kansascity.com/living/advice-columns/article21485595.html#storylink=rss I am a veteran with 23 years of service, and I’m uncomfortable with the traditional “Happy Memorial Day” greeting. Are there better forms of greetings for more somber occasions?

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Thu, 21 May 2015 06:41:00 CDT

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Billy Graham: Mission trip could change your life http://www.kansascity.com/living/liv-columns-blogs/billy-graham/article21496077.html#storylink=rss God not only wants to work through you to help others, he also wants to work in you while you’re serving the people of this village. Be alert to his leading, therefore, asking him to use this experience to teach you new things about himself and what he is doing in the world.

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Thu, 21 May 2015 07:00:00 CDT

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Dear Abby: Readers offer advice to wife whose husband tunes her out http://www.kansascity.com/living/advice-columns/article21380424.html#storylink=rss DEAR ABBY: I am responding to “Tired of Talking to Myself,” whose husband’s ears slam shut when she begins to speak.  “Tired” needs to look at her own behavior because I have never seen one partner be the only guilty one. My wife can hear the ticking of the turn signal that wasn’t turned off, but she doesn’t always hear my questions or statements.

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Tue, 19 May 2015 11:22:46 CDT

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Billy Graham: To avoid offensive comments, cultivate compassion for others http://www.kansascity.com/living/liv-columns-blogs/billy-graham/article21390138.html#storylink=rss One key is to ask yourself why you constantly blurt out things that don’t need to be said, and are not only hurtful but wrong. Only you can answer this, of course, but is it because you feel a need to call attention to yourself?

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Wed, 20 May 2015 05:00:00 CDT

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Dear Abby: Son needs to know truth about abuse http://www.kansascity.com/living/advice-columns/article21294633.html#storylink=rss DEAR ABBY: My daughter, “Meg,” was sexually abused at the age of 3 by her father 25 years ago. “Emile” and I were divorced, but he had visitation. Meg has no relationship now with her father, but her brother does. Ian is now expecting a child and knows nothing about the abuse his sister suffered. I have tried raising the subject with Meg, but she won’t discuss it. I’m afraid if I tell Ian, it will cause a breach in our relationship, and I’m not sure he would believe me. But how do I NOT tell him?

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Tue, 19 May 2015 07:00:00 CDT

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Miss Manners: Rudeness provokes an even ruder response http://www.kansascity.com/living/advice-columns/article21295077.html#storylink=rss My friend and I were at a high-energy fitness class with loud music, and at times during the class we were talking. In the middle of the class, a disgruntled participant turned around and screamed at us to stop talking.

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Tue, 19 May 2015 07:00:00 CDT

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Billy Graham: Changing your life could open the door to reconnecting with your children http://www.kansascity.com/living/liv-columns-blogs/billy-graham/article21294834.html#storylink=rss I would encourage you to do whatever you can to let them know you care about them, even if it’s no more than a card on their birthdays or an occasional letter.

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Tue, 19 May 2015 07:00:00 CDT

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Dear Abby: Hubby opens their home to everyone http://www.kansascity.com/living/advice-columns/article21319032.html#storylink=rss I have been married for 20 years. My husband likes having people around ALL the time, and because he is a minister, we often can’t avoid it. I have tried to accommodate his friends and hangers-on, but lately it’s becoming unbearable.

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Mon, 18 May 2015 07:00:00 CDT

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Miss Manners: Artists working in public prefer to draw in peace http://www.kansascity.com/living/advice-columns/article21315390.html#storylink=rss DEAR MISS MANNERS: I am a young artist, and one of my art classes involves drawing all day in a famous natural history museum. The etiquette surrounding how to act around artists who are focused on their work seems to be varied.

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Mon, 18 May 2015 16:15:57 CDT

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Billy Graham: Face honestly the reasons for your doubt http://www.kansascity.com/living/liv-columns-blogs/billy-graham/article21319137.html#storylink=rss If we no longer need God because of science, then why do so many scientists and other intellectuals still believe in him? Some don’t, of course, but over the years I’ve been privileged to meet many who do.

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Mon, 18 May 2015 07:00:00 CDT

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Dear Abby: Wedding invitation doesn’t include sister’s significant other http://www.kansascity.com/living/advice-columns/article21097086.html#storylink=rss DEAR ABBY: My only sister, “Carolyn,” is getting married in two months. I’m ecstatic for her. But she has chosen not to invite my significant other, Greg. I have no idea how to tell Greg. I asked Carolyn if excluding Greg had been an oversight, and she said she would just prefer that he not be there. I can respect that, and I don’t want to cause any drama or take anything away from her day. Does this seem appropriate?

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Sun, 17 May 2015 07:00:00 CDT

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Billy Graham: Ask God to show you his plans, not bless your dreams http://www.kansascity.com/living/liv-columns-blogs/billy-graham/article21097332.html#storylink=rss God loves you, and because of this, he doesn’t want to see you get involved in anything that might hurt you or lead you astray. God knows what’s best for us, and his way is always best. The Bible says, “He guards the course of the just and protects the way of his faithful ones” (Proverbs 2:8).

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Dear Abby: How can adopted child forgive birth mother? http://www.kansascity.com/living/advice-columns/article21117225.html#storylink=rss DEAR ABBY: I am almost 13 and I was adopted when I was a baby, so I never lived with my birth mother. That’s probably a good thing, but I am having angry feelings toward her that I wish I wouldn’t have.

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Fri, 15 May 2015 07:00:00 CDT

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Billy Graham: With Christ at the center of your life, happiness will follow http://www.kansascity.com/living/liv-columns-blogs/billy-graham/article21079209.html#storylink=rss Tragically, many people search for happiness in the wrong places or in the wrong ways, hoping (for example) that an unwise relationship or an immoral action will bring them happiness.

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Dear Abby: Wife is tired of accolades for transplant donor http://www.kansascity.com/living/advice-columns/article20845788.html#storylink=rss My husband of 28 years had a bone marrow transplant and now he wants to meet up with the female donor. I’m not usually jealous, but it’s all he talks about every single minute of the day.

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Thu, 14 May 2015 07:00:00 CDT

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Billy Graham: Help friend replace prejudice with love http://www.kansascity.com/living/liv-columns-blogs/billy-graham/article20846343.html#storylink=rss Some day in heaven, we’ll join all believers in praising God for Christ’s mercy and grace. The Bible says, “With your blood you purchased for God persons from every tribe and language and people and nation” (Revelation 5:9).

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Miss Manners: Mourning and social media don’t mix http://www.kansascity.com/living/advice-columns/article20846661.html#storylink=rss A few weeks ago, a friend of mine died. About a week after the funeral I looked at the Facebook pages of some of her relatives and was surprised to see them out having a good time post-funeral.

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Thu, 14 May 2015 04:29:00 CDT

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Dear Abby: Friend wants to know what to say after brutal attack http://www.kansascity.com/living/advice-columns/article20745924.html#storylink=rss What do you say when someone has been raped?

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Wed, 13 May 2015 07:00:00 CDT

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Billy Graham: Ask God for the confidence to make wise decisions http://www.kansascity.com/living/liv-columns-blogs/billy-graham/article20745663.html#storylink=rss It’s not wrong to think through the decisions we need to make, of course; sometimes a hasty decision is worse than no decision. But when you face decisions, ask God to guide you and help you think them through. God loves us and is even concerned about the small things in our lives.

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Wed, 13 May 2015 07:00:00 CDT

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Dear Abby: Praying in public is a personal preference http://www.kansascity.com/living/advice-columns/article20676297.html#storylink=rss I pray before a meal at home and at friends’ houses. We’ve begun eating out regularly with fellow church members who pray at the restaurant, and that makes me uncomfortable.

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Tue, 12 May 2015 07:00:00 CDT

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Billy Graham: God wants us to put our talents to use http://www.kansascity.com/living/liv-columns-blogs/billy-graham/article20677239.html#storylink=rss If no one wants to work, little will ever get done, and our society will sink deeper and deeper into poverty and hopelessness. The Bible says, “Lazy hands make for poverty, but diligent hands bring wealth” (Proverbs 10:4).

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Miss Manners: Caller ID, the old-fashioned way http://www.kansascity.com/living/advice-columns/article20675325.html#storylink=rss With modern technology, phone etiquette rules seem to have changed. Is it still appropriate to identify oneself at the commencement of a phone call?

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Billy Graham: Seek God’s guidance as you plan your future http://www.kansascity.com/living/liv-columns-blogs/billy-graham/article20694552.html#storylink=rss The most important thing I can urge you to do is to seek God’s will for your future. God made you, and he knows all about you. He knows your strengths and weaknesses; he also knows your feelings and desires.

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Mon, 11 May 2015 07:00:00 CDT

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Dear Abby: Son needs to know truth about cheating dad http://www.kansascity.com/living/advice-columns/article20693934.html#storylink=rss I am a divorced mother of four. I have been single since my ex chose an affair over our marriage. Now, my ex is pressuring me through my son to get back together.

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Miss Manners: Happy Productive Day! http://www.kansascity.com/living/advice-columns/article20692782.html#storylink=rss How about a day to honor childless adults?

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