<![CDATA[Advice Columns | The Kansas City Star & KansasCity.com]]> http://www.kansascity.com/living/advice-columns/ en-us Thu, 22 Jan 2015 08:23:38 CST http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss McClatchy Interactive's Escenic Thu, 22 Jan 2015 08:23:38 CST Advice Columns 60 Dear Abby: Convicted of DUI, driver doesn’t want jail time http://www.kansascity.com/living/advice-columns/article29682001.html#storylink=rss DEAR ABBY: I am normally a law-abiding citizen. I was pulled over a half-block away from picking up my son and charged with DUI. I don’t dispute the facts, but I didn’t injure anyone. I did not contest that I should lose my license for a year, but I do contest jail time. I feel if they are going to put me in jail, they should have put away the men who rear-ended my sister and niece and caused them lasting injuries. I don’t deny my guilt. I suggest only that I am less guilty than others.

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Fri, 31 Jul 2015 03:00:00 CDT

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Billy Graham: Nursing home residents need our love, concern and prayers http://www.kansascity.com/living/liv-columns-blogs/billy-graham/article29593735.html#storylink=rss Never forget: Self-love is the greatest enemy of true love! The Bible warns of the time when “People will be lovers of themselves, lovers of money, boastful, proud, abusive … without love” (2 Timothy 3:2-3).

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Fri, 31 Jul 2015 03:00:00 CDT

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Dear Abby: She isn’t his soul mate and that worries her http://www.kansascity.com/living/advice-columns/article29410912.html#storylink=rss My boyfriend recently told me that a previous girlfriend who died is his soul mate. I’m hurt and don’t know if I will ever be enough for him.

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Thu, 30 Jul 2015 03:00:00 CDT

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Miss Manners: Cellphone surfing looks like rudeness http://www.kansascity.com/living/advice-columns/article29408692.html#storylink=rss My husband regularly looks up information on his cellphone in the middle of conversations that’s relevant to the topic being discussed. I think this is rude when we’re in others’ company.

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Thu, 30 Jul 2015 03:00:00 CDT

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Billy Graham: Jesus himself spoke about the reality of hell and God’s judgment http://www.kansascity.com/living/liv-columns-blogs/billy-graham/article29409454.html#storylink=rss Jesus also demonstrated beyond doubt that death isn’t the end and our lives continue beyond the grave, either with God in heaven, or in that place of absolute despair the Bible calls hell.

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Thu, 30 Jul 2015 03:00:00 CDT

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Dear Abby: Cat sitter purloins relative’s possessions http://www.kansascity.com/living/advice-columns/article29109400.html#storylink=rss DEAR ABBY: A trusted and beloved family member who takes care of my cats — and therefore has a key to my house — has been stealing things like cleaning supplies, knickknacks, family pictures, etc. Most of them have little monetary value. But imagine my surprise when I spotted some of my missing seashell collection in her fish tank.

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Wed, 29 Jul 2015 03:00:00 CDT

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Billy Graham: Reach out to unchurched neighbors with love, compassion and concern http://www.kansascity.com/living/liv-columns-blogs/billy-graham/article29150665.html#storylink=rss Ask God also to help you be genuine friends, not cutting yourselves off from them but sharing in their lives. Pray for them also, that God will help them realize their need of him. The Bible says, “As we have opportunity, let us do good to all people” (Galatians 6:10).

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Wed, 29 Jul 2015 03:00:00 CDT

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Dear Abby: Security cameras catch teen by surprise http://www.kansascity.com/living/advice-columns/article28462663.html#storylink=rss DEAR ABBY: Years ago, after a robbery, my parents installed security cameras outside our house. I knew about them because they were visible. But apparently some were installed that I knew nothing about. I have done things while alone to help control certain feelings, and I have also walked around without much on when my parents were away and never thought anything about it. Ever since I found out, I have been freaking out.

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Tue, 28 Jul 2015 03:00:00 CDT

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Miss Manners: The race to raise money http://www.kansascity.com/living/advice-columns/article28459411.html#storylink=rss Is it ever appropriate to solicit donations for marathons? I’m struggling to raise money to run the Boston Marathon.

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Tue, 28 Jul 2015 03:00:00 CDT

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Billy Graham: Sooner or later, our sins will catch up with us http://www.kansascity.com/living/liv-columns-blogs/billy-graham/article28465123.html#storylink=rss We may even conclude that there really isn’t such a thing as sin, and there’s no right and wrong. Then we become like the people of whom the Bible speaks: “Everyone did as they saw fit” (Judges 17:6).

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Tue, 28 Jul 2015 03:00:00 CDT

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Dear Abby: Boyfriend fancies daughter’s fanny http://www.kansascity.com/living/advice-columns/article28862668.html#storylink=rss I’m 58 and dating a 63-year-old man who says he’s madly in love with me. However, he stares at women’s butts, and last week I caught him staring inappropriately at my daughter on a camping trip.

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Mon, 27 Jul 2015 03:00:00 CDT

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Miss Manners: Couple who cancel vacation shouldn’t cancel their thank-you http://www.kansascity.com/living/advice-columns/article28834561.html#storylink=rss A couple who accepted a vacation invitation and then declined it want their thank-you gift of expensive wine returned.

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Mon, 27 Jul 2015 03:00:00 CDT

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Billy Graham: You can point others to Christ by the way you live http://www.kansascity.com/living/liv-columns-blogs/billy-graham/article28835881.html#storylink=rss Ask God to help you begin to see your friends the way he sees them — as sinners who need to know that God loves them and that Christ died so they could be with him in heaven forever. Pray for them regularly.

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Mon, 27 Jul 2015 03:00:00 CDT

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Dear Abby: Wedding might be the wrong time for father to visit http://www.kansascity.com/living/advice-columns/article28627708.html#storylink=rss Some years ago I reconnected with my biological father, who lives in Spain and has never been to the United States. I want to invite him to my wedding, but mother strenuously objects.

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Sun, 26 Jul 2015 03:00:00 CDT

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Billy Graham: Salvation is not a reward for good works http://www.kansascity.com/living/liv-columns-blogs/billy-graham/article28625968.html#storylink=rss Salvation is not a reward for our goodness. In other words, no matter how good we are, no matter how active we’ve been in church, no matter how much we’ve tried to help others, we can never make it to heaven on our own.

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Sun, 26 Jul 2015 03:00:00 CDT

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Dear Abby: Caregiver wife worried about health and finances http://www.kansascity.com/living/advice-columns/article28447393.html#storylink=rss DEAR ABBY: I’m a full-time caregiver for my 88-year-old husband. I’m worried about my future because my stepdaughter has vowed to kick me out of the house if he dies before I do.

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Fri, 24 Jul 2015 03:00:00 CDT

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Billy Graham: Salvation saves us from sin and hell, and joins us with Christ http://www.kansascity.com/living/liv-columns-blogs/billy-graham/article28512637.html#storylink=rss Sin is like a deadly disease that cripples us morally and spiritually, and keeps us from living the way we should. Burdened by sin, we also have no hope of eternal life with God in heaven.

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Fri, 24 Jul 2015 03:00:00 CDT

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Dear Abby: Sensitive girlfriend creates tension http://www.kansascity.com/living/advice-columns/article28396450.html#storylink=rss I’m frustrated about how to connect with my young adult son’s 18-year-old girlfriend. He told me she has a bad relationship with her divorced parents, so he’s hoping we can bond.

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Thu, 23 Jul 2015 03:00:00 CDT

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Miss Manners: RSVPs are a dilemma for new mom http://www.kansascity.com/living/advice-columns/article28330933.html#storylink=rss I’m a new mother trying to figure out the etiquette for invitations when I’m not sure I can attend because of the baby’s schedule. Must I turn everything down, or can I say “Maybe”?

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Thu, 23 Jul 2015 03:00:00 CDT

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Billy Graham: The most glorious aspect of heaven will be God’s presence http://www.kansascity.com/living/liv-columns-blogs/billy-graham/article28331254.html#storylink=rss Every description the Bible gives us makes it clear that heaven is filled with wonders and treasures far greater than anything we know on earth. Even the most skilled artist or most brilliant composer is unable to portray its glories.

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Thu, 23 Jul 2015 03:00:00 CDT

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Dear Abby: Mother’s response to abuse haunts woman http://www.kansascity.com/living/advice-columns/article28055125.html#storylink=rss DEAR ABBY: I’m in my early 50s, disabled and live with my elderly mother. Between the ages of 8 and 11 I was sexually abused by my adoptive father. He never did it again, and it was never spoken about, ever. I still have a deep ache in my soul that tells me that I don’t matter as much as other human beings. I resist going to therapy because I live with her and I know she will quiz me about what we talked about in the sessions. I just want to keep the peace and not risk her going into a tirade about how she “did what she had to do.” I don’t know what to do.

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Wed, 22 Jul 2015 03:00:00 CDT

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Billy Graham: God was at work in husband’s successful surgery http://www.kansascity.com/living/liv-columns-blogs/billy-graham/article28040188.html#storylink=rss Even the most skilled surgeon in the world would have accomplished nothing if God hadn’t been at work in hidden ways to restore one woman’s husband to health.

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Wed, 22 Jul 2015 03:00:00 CDT

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Dear Abby: Kansas wife has doubts about husband http://www.kansascity.com/living/advice-columns/article27942121.html#storylink=rss DEAR ABBY: I have been with my husband for 10 years. We were married six months ago. Before the wedding, we had some breakups. During one of them, he dated another woman briefly. The encounter led to her becoming pregnant, and she gave birth to a boy who is now a year old. Last week, I received a Facebook message from a woman who advised me that my husband had approached her at the gym and said he was single, so they went on a date.

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Tue, 21 Jul 2015 03:00:00 CDT

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Miss Manners: Fourth date, three etiquette breaches http://www.kansascity.com/living/advice-columns/article27941158.html#storylink=rss On our fourth date, I chimed in when my date raised a toast to me. He chided me for interrupting and I responded to him. Who is right?

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Tue, 21 Jul 2015 03:00:00 CDT

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Billy Graham: Let Christ’s peace replace guilt over son’s suicide http://www.kansascity.com/living/liv-columns-blogs/billy-graham/article27491701.html#storylink=rss Feelings of guilt often get magnified or distorted far beyond what they should be when tragedies occur. We think we alone have failed, and that we alone bear the responsibility for what happened. But this is seldom true, and I seriously doubt if it’s true in your case.

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Tue, 21 Jul 2015 03:00:00 CDT

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Dear Abby: Wife had no right to look up hubby’s medical records http://www.kansascity.com/living/advice-columns/article27933976.html#storylink=rss Readers respond to “Concerned in Massachusetts,” who used her status as a hospital employee to access her husband’s medical records and found a history of STDs.

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Mon, 20 Jul 2015 14:14:44 CDT

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Miss Manners: Generosity deserves more than offhanded thanks http://www.kansascity.com/living/advice-columns/article27959809.html#storylink=rss My wife and I own a house near the beach. We often lend it to friends, and I am surprised by the lack of gratitude they seem to show.

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Mon, 20 Jul 2015 03:00:00 CDT

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Billy Graham: Health clinic for poor village will change lives http://www.kansascity.com/living/liv-columns-blogs/billy-graham/article27925558.html#storylink=rss Our church has been raising money to help build a health clinic in a village where some of our missionaries work. To be honest, though, do projects like this actually do any good?

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Dear Abby: Mom’s diary has some shocking news http://www.kansascity.com/living/advice-columns/article27495175.html#storylink=rss DEAR ABBY: I recently found a notebook of my mom’s. On the outside cover it said, “Disclaimer: Do Not Open Unless You’re Me!” Being the curious soul that I am, I opened it despite the disclaimer. As I read it, I learned the truth about how I was conceived. Written in capital letters were the words “I WAS RAPED.” Where do I go from here? Should I confront her about it?

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Sun, 19 Jul 2015 03:00:00 CDT

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Billy Graham: Doctors and nurses serve God with their healing skills http://www.kansascity.com/living/liv-columns-blogs/billy-graham/article27516274.html#storylink=rss God works through people to get his work done in the world, including doctors and nurses. He gave their skills to them, and he also has enabled researchers to discover new ways to treat some of the maladies that affect our bodies.

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