Not all adoption reunions end with happy families

DEAR ABBY: When I was in my early 20s, I had a baby boy I placed for adoption. I could barely take care of myself, let alone a newborn. The father wanted nothing to do with me or the baby, so I placed him with his relatives out of state, who adopted him. With counseling, I got my life back on track, finished college and got a good job. I am married now and have a family.

Fellowship with other believers is important

DEAR BILLY GRAHAM: A couple of people in my church have said things about me that are very hurtful, so I’ve decided to stop going. I know you’ll try to talk me into going back, but why should I? The important thing is to believe in Jesus, isn’t it? — M.W.

Organ donation lets life continue through others

DEAR ABBY: I work in a palliative care unit in a local hospital, and I’m all too aware of how important it is to have one’s end-of-life wishes documented, notarized and on-hand in case of an emergency. I remember reading an essay that appeared in your column years ago; it eloquently described the desire of the writer that his body be used to allow others to live through organ donation.

Her stalker has moved on to her cousin

DEAR ABBY: About a year ago, I stopped seeing a man I’ll call “Vince.” Since then he has been stalking me. He sends me texts with photos he took of us while we were dating, but distorts them to make me look like I’m stabbing him in the heart. He sends videos with my head on a dancing Barbie doll. My neighbors tell me they see him drive past my house. (He lives across town.) I refuse to talk to him now because he scares me.

Yes, you have to stay for the whole date

DEAR MISS MANNERS: Last week I joined a popular online dating site and went on a first date. He picked me up at my house and took me out to dinner. Unfortunately, from the moment he opened his mouth, I knew we would not be compatible.

With God’s help, people can change

DEAR BILLY GRAHAM: Can people ever change? My husband has always been a very impatient person, and I’ve finally decided that he’s always going to be that way. Please pray that I’ll be able to adjust, because sometimes it’s very hard to get along with him. — C.Y.

Minister wants time to himself at coffee shop

DEAR ABBY: I’m a member of the clergy who enjoys studying for my ministry and doctoral work at a local coffee shop. Three men who go there every day have found out that I’m a minister, and they each want to talk with me while I’m there. Although all three are members of the same religion, none of them is affiliated with a church.

God has shown himself to us in many ways

DEAR BILLY GRAHAM: How do we know if what someone says about God is actually true? Maybe it’s just something they dreamed up or that they sincerely think is true but it isn’t. I’m not sure we can know anything for certain about God. — Z.N.

Reckless parents allow young child to hang out of moving car

DEAR ABBY: What can I do about a child I see in an automobile who is hanging out the window when she passes my house? The child is around 4 years old. Today when I saw the little girl, the only parts of her in the car were her lower legs and feet. Her mother, father and grandmother allow her to do this.

Study the Bible to learn the full truth about God’s love

DEAR BILLY GRAHAM: I grew up believing that it didn’t take much to make God angry at me, and I always needed to be on my best behavior or he might do something bad to me. But my cousin says I’m wrong and that God loves us and treats us kindly no matter what we do. Which of us is right? — T.M.

After losing more than 200 pounds, she needs plastic surgery

DEAR ABBY: As a child, I was sexually, physically and mentally abused. As an adult, I suffered several miscarriages, and two of my children died as infants. I have two living children, ages 9 and 16. It should be no surprise that I turned to food for comfort; I ate myself to a whopping 420 pounds.

The Bible cautions us about the dangers of too much debt

DEAR BILLY GRAHAM: Our church went heavily into debt to build our new building, but now our pastor has left, several families are drifting away, and we’re having a hard time making the mortgage payments. Does the Bible say anything about borrowing lots of money to build a church? — K.R.

Boyfriend’s demands are really emotional blackmail

DEAR ABBY: My 13-year-old daughter, “Lizzie,” continues to talk to a 14-year-old boy who is very controlling and abusive. I made her stop talking to him, took away her cellphone privileges and tried to show her that she was going to wind up very hurt.

Offended by everyone taking photos

DEAR MISS MANNERS: I feel intimidated and insulted (perhaps assaulted) by everyone and their cameras. Everywhere I go lately, everybody is taking pictures with their cameras and phones. It’s a constant barrage.

Devastated that her baby will be a boy, not a girl

DEAR ABBY: I’m a single mother of a beautiful 2-year-old daughter. I have always pictured myself as a mom of four little princesses. When I fantasized about having children, I imagined fairy tales, ballet, cheerleading, dress-up, tea parties — all girl things.

Can’t impress the boor next door

DEAR MISS MANNERS: We have moved to a small town in a popular wine-growing region, and our next-door neighbor is a well-known winemaker. We invited him and his wife over for dinner, and I shared a bottle of one of my favorite (and not inexpensive) wines that I have been collecting for years.

You can learn to be a good example for your children

DEAR BILLY GRAHAM: I know teenagers often rebel against their parents, but I admit I went overboard and have been a rebel ever since. We have two children now, and I’m scared because I realize I don’t have any idea how to be a good father. — J.M.

Suspecting her daughter knows about abortion

DEAR ABBY: Before my ex-husband and I were married, I became pregnant with his baby. We decided together that we weren’t ready for the responsibility and made the mutual decision to end the pregnancy early in the first trimester. We did marry eventually and had a baby girl who is now in college.

With God’s guidance, you can renew your rocky marriage

DEAR BILLY GRAHAM: My parents got divorced when I was 8, and it was such a traumatic time for me that I vowed I’d never get divorced myself. But now my marriage looks like it’s headed for the rocks. I can’t believe this is happening. What did I do wrong? — V.L.