Already caring for one grandchild, pondering adoption of a second

DEAR ABBY: I’m 62 and own my own home. I have legal guardianship of my eldest grandson, who is 5. Another grandchild is 21/2 and in foster care. I would like to keep both children together because I have been told that in the long run it is better so they won’t lose contact with each other.

God is able to break through to even the hardest heart

DEAR BILLY GRAHAM: My youngest brother says he gave up religion in college and now claims he’s an atheist. He says religion is just for weak people (like me, I guess he means). How can I convince him he’s wrong? He just laughs when I try to tell him about my faith in Jesus. — L.C.

Wife regrets office romance but won’t remove journal entries

DEAR ABBY: I have been married almost 20 years. Eight years ago, my wife began an emotional affair with a co-worker. It lasted a year, until he left the company. Although they never had sex, they did have some physical contact that most people would consider inappropriate, and my wife considered ending our marriage because of the feelings she had for him.

The Bible notes our responsibility to take care of ourselves

DEAR BILLY GRAHAM: I’m an emergency room nurse in our local hospital, and I get very discouraged because so many of the people we see are there because they’ve done something stupid or they haven’t taken care of themselves. Does the Bible say anything about taking care of our bodies? Or is it just concerned with spiritual things? — D.E.

Don’t invite guests you’re hoping won’t show

DEAR ABBY: My daughter is being married soon, and I need some guidance about inviting my aunt and uncle to the wedding. They live about 30 miles from us. We moved to this area four years ago, and we’ve had them over for dinner once and invited them another time. They declined because they were going to be out of town.

Being ‘social’ while buried in a book

DEAR MISS MANNERS: My 62-year-old sister has the habit of pulling a book from her purse in any social outing involving friends, relatives, etc., and reading. I consider her behavior the height of rudeness, ignoring everyone in her presence in favor of a book. And I’m a 66-year-old retired librarian! May I have your opinion on her conduct?

Marry a leader, not a follower

DEAR ABBY: My boyfriend, “Caleb,” and I have been dating for three years. I’m sure he’ll propose within the next few months. I’m having a problem with this because Caleb’s best friend, “A.J.,” will be proposing to his girlfriend in the next month. They should be able to enjoy their time and let all their friends know.

God loves ‘obnoxious’ people, too!

DEAR BILLY GRAHAM: How do you deal with someone who’s just plain obnoxious? My brother-in-law never lets anyone else talk when he’s around, and if they do say something, he immediately argues with them because he thinks he knows everything. Should we just ignore him? — J.S.

Teen suffering from depression needs help

DEAR ABBY: I’m a 15-year-old boy in ninth grade. I have depression, and I don’t know what to do. I always feel like I’m not good enough for anything, even though I have had a 4.0 GPA since seventh grade. I have repeatedly cut myself, but I wear a bracelet so no one can see it.

Yes, pregnant women had sex. No, they don’t have to hide it

DEAR ABBY: I am wondering why pregnant women these days don’t wear smocks like we all wore years ago. While I do think pregnant women are attractive, I really don’t want to see their swollen bellies. Wouldn’t it be better to just “imagine” what is under that smock or long skirt? Does anyone agree with me? — Dorothy in Washington

Don’t plan parties with entry fees

DEAR MISS MANNERS: I am the godmother of a lovely girl who will be turning 2. Her mother and I have decided that we want to throw her a nice casual party at a fall festival that includes hay rides, party favors, live music, a decorated gazebo, etc., for a reasonable price that I am happy to cover.

Only by following Christ can live a truly fulfilling life

DEAR BILLY GRAHAM: I grew up in a religious home, but after I got a job in another city I kind of forgot about God. Most of my friends here are the same way. Maybe we’ll get back to God when we get older, but we’re happy the way we are, and that’s what counts, isn’t it? — Z.K.

Colorado mom needs to explain to son that marijuana is not ‘that bad’

DEAR ABBY: Due to various anti-drug lectures he was exposed to at school, my 13-year-old son believes that marijuana is not only illegal but also is very bad for you. He said it is poison. My state has recently legalized marijuana, and I am at a loss about how to explain to him that pot is no longer “that bad,” as people partake of it in a responsible manner going forward. Any suggestions?

God has told us what heaven will be like

DEAR BILLY GRAHAM: I’ve never thought much about what happens when we die, but my grandmother died a few months ago, and now it really worries me. Is there any way we can know? Or will we just have to wait to find out? — L.W.

Boyfriend caught after sharing his phone password

DEAR ABBY: I have been in a relationship for two years. We gave each other our phone passwords as soon as we made it official to avoid keeping things from each other. One night I had a sudden urge to go through his phone. I had never done it before, and when I looked at his Facebook messages, I saw he had been exchanging inappropriate pictures with someone.

A dress dispute with fiance’s mother

DEAR MISS MANNERS: My mother is 70 and plus-size, and the dress that she bought for my wedding is very elegant yet semi-plain. My fiance’s mother is driving me nuts because she would like to wear a ballgown that is bigger than my dress and has a large amount of jewels and gems on the dress.

Jesus was God in human flesh

DEAR BILLY GRAHAM: I suppose it makes sense to believe in God, but I’m not sure I believe in Jesus the way you preachers say we should. Where does he fit into the picture? Isn’t it enough to believe in God? — R.M.

Readers cringed at this sister’s adoption plans

DEAR ABBY: Your answer to “Heartbroken in Alabama” did not go deep enough. The pregnant sister, “Nicole,” who is facing prison time, needs to contact the Department of Children’s Services in her county/state as soon as possible. They will oversee the placement of her child if said child is born in jail or prison.

Dealing with fools who think themselves wise

DEAR MISS MANNERS: I work as a secretary at an English department. Somewhat to my surprise, we have been besieged by fringe “academics” who are very adamant that we are part of a conspiracy to cover up the fact that Edward de Vere, Earl of Oxford, was Shakespeare.

Activities help kids grow up

DEAR ABBY: My 11-year-old daughter, “Gwen,” just started middle school. She makes good grades, but she’s strong-willed. Do kids grow up instantly when they start middle school? She wants to know if she can have a boyfriend. I told her not until she’s 15. Now she’s flirting with girls who ask her out.

Ask God to guide you as you seek employment

DEAR BILLY GRAHAM: I know the economy is supposed to be getting better, but it sure hasn’t helped me find a job. I’m in my 50s now, and no one wants to hire people my age. Why won’t God help me? — F.B.