DEAR ABBY: My 23-year-old son, Wayne, who is single, has a 3-year-old son. We didnt learn about the child until he was more than a year old, when Wayne was asked to take a paternity test. Luckily, we have been able to form a good relationship with our grandsons mother and see him often. However, our son has shown no interest. He pays child support but has little interaction.
DEAR MISS MANNERS: I did quite a bit of work for a group I belong to, and the organizers of the event wanted to thank me by taking me to lunch.
DEAR ABBY: I am a woman in a loving relationship with another woman. My family has been harsh in their remarks to me, saying they would rather I was dead than doing this, or that I should move away if this is the way I am going to live.
DEAR BILLY GRAHAM: When we get to heaven, will we ever have worries or bad thoughts, or think about things we really shouldn’t think about? Sometimes my brain wanders all over the place, and I find myself thinking about things I know I shouldn’t. Will it be different in heaven? — J.S.
DEAR BILLY GRAHAM: Is it a sin to get discouraged when things dont go the way we want them to? Did Jesus ever get discouraged? K.K.
DEAR ABBY: I have been married to a wonderful man for 30 years. Our marriage may not be perfect, but its quite good. My dilemma is this: My husband keeps track of every time we have sex and has a personal goal of 100 times a year.
DEAR MISS MANNERS: I had a friend who was very offended when I did not get her a gift for her birthday, and who made sure to remind me about the gifts she had given me on my special day. We are in our mid-20s.
DEAR BILLY GRAHAM: Ive always been puzzled by a prayer of Jesus just before his arrest. From what Ive heard, it almost sounds like he didnt want to die, and was even asking God to stop what was about to happen. Is this true? A.M.
DEAR ABBY: I manage a group of 15 employees. A few months ago, I hired the wife of an old friend. Until now she has been a great employee, but recently she and a male co-worker have been taking lunches and breaks together in a way that leads me to believe they are flirting or have already crossed the line.
DEAR MISS MANNERS: I fell and hit my head, which left a large bruise (black eye and large scar) on one side of my face. Every time I go out in public, someone asks me what I did to my face. Most of the questioners are total strangers, e.g., store clerks and fellow bus riders.
DEAR BILLY GRAHAM: In your opinion, which was more important, Jesus death on the cross or his resurrection from the dead? Some of us were talking about this the other day in our small group Bible study, and we couldnt come to any conclusion. R.K.
DEAR ABBY: My 83-year-old mother has decided she wants to die. She says shes miserable, but I think shes causing her own misery. She has medications to address her physical ailments, none of which are critical. My siblings live in other states. Mom feels its a burden for them to travel to see her, and she refuses to travel.
DEAR BILLY GRAHAM: Why were Jesus disciples so depressed after he was put to death? Hadnt he promised them that hed come back from the grave? Why didnt they believe him? H.G.
DEAR ABBY: Im a 14-year-old girl with a problem. Because of my buzzed short hair, slim hips and flat chest, I frequently get mistaken for a boy. It really bothers me because, despite my haircut and body shape, I have a feminine face and I wear womens clothes and makeup. Im not too much of a tomboy.
DEAR BILLY GRAHAM: Was Jesus really dead when they took him down from the cross? I have a hard time believing that because everyone knows that dead people just dont come back to life which is what you Christians claim Jesus did, dont you? C.T.
DEAR ABBY: How do I deal with an assistant who keeps calling me a brown noser? She did it again yesterday at a staff meeting in front of my boss and another assistant. It was the third time she has said it. She is gruff and rude, and several people have complained to me about her attitude.
DEAR MISS MANNERS: A family member recently arranged to have two DNA swab kits sent directly to my husband and me from a well-known scientific organization. The organization apparently is in the process of conducting a worldwide hereditary study.
DEAR BILLY GRAHAM: Why is the day on which Jesus died called Good Friday? I dont see anything good about it, to be honest. J.W.
DEAR ABBY: I am a 34-year-old wife and mother of four. Im concerned about my husband. He is 44 and drinks at home every evening after work. I dont mind him having a few cans of beer, but he drinks between six and 12 a day. He refuses to see a doctor for checkups or when he is sick. I am worried about his health.
DEAR BILLY GRAHAM: Why did Judas betray Jesus? Its never made sense to me, because for years hed been close to Jesus, hearing his teachings and seeing his miracles. And anyway, why did the authorities even need to find someone to betray Jesus? D.M.
DEAR ABBY: I have been in a long-distance relationship with Victor for several years. Recently I began to suspect he was cheating. What raised my suspicion was that I suddenly couldnt reach him on the weekends. Usually we would Skype: Sunday night for me, Monday morning for him.
DEAR MISS MANNERS: What is a kind and yet firm comment that I can say to the person in line after me at the cash register who invariably comes and stands next to my elbow while Im using my credit/debit card?
DEAR BILLY GRAHAM: Out of curiosity, I read through one of the Gospels recently, and I was puzzled why some people opposed Jesus and even wanted to kill him. It seems to me that they should have welcomed him. P.R.
DEAR ABBY: I read your Jan. 8 column about the warning signs of an abuser. Would you use your influence to say that men are also victims of abuse?
DEAR MISS MANNERS: I am a political appointee. At a dinner party recently where I was a guest, one of the other guests asked about a controversial policy issue relevant to my agency.