D<strong>EAR ABBY: I need an unbiased opinion. I am the father of a 12-year-old daughter, &ldquo;Lia.&rdquo; She catches an early bus for school, and I leave for work at the same time her bus picks her up, so I&rsquo;m in charge of getting her ready. </strong></p><p><strong> Although we have two bathrooms &mdash; one upstairs and one down &mdash; neither of us wants to use the downstairs bathroom to get ready.</strong></p><p><strong> When I wake Lia up each morning, she heads into the shower and I go feed the dog. I then go into the bathroom and shave while she&rsquo;s in the shower. While I&rsquo;m shaving we discuss sports and life in general. When I&rsquo;m finished, I leave until she&rsquo;s done showering and goes back into her room. I then take my shower.</strong></p><p><strong> Is this wrong? Lia&rsquo;s mother thinks it&rsquo;s inappropriate for me to be in the bathroom at all while she&rsquo;s taking a shower. I think it is efficient because neither of us is willing to use the other bathroom, and I find it&rsquo;s a good time to find out what&rsquo;s going on in her life. Who&rsquo;s right? &mdash; Right or Wrong in Wisconsin</strong></p><p><strong> DEAR RIGHT OR WRONG: </strong>Your wife is correct. It&rsquo;s not a matter of &ldquo;right or wrong.&rdquo; It&rsquo;s a matter of what is appropriate. </p><p> At 12, your daughter is becoming a young woman. Either you or Lia needs to start using the downstairs bathroom. You can bond with her over breakfast.</p><p><strong><span class="subhead">Three-way conversation</span></strong></p><p><strong>DEAR ABBY: My old college roommate &ldquo;Gina&rdquo; and I live several states apart, but we have remained close. Whenever I call her, her husband picks up an extension and listens in. We don&rsquo;t know he&rsquo;s listening until he says something. Other times, he&rsquo;ll stand next to her and constantly interrupt her while we&rsquo;re talking. He has his own friends and hobbies, and Gina does not know why he keeps butting in.</strong></p><p><strong> This three-way conversation is bugging me. Since Gina appears to be unable to tell him to cut it out, what should I do? &mdash; Miffed in Madison</strong></p><p><strong> DEAR MIFFED:</strong> I see no reason why you shouldn&rsquo;t tell Gina &mdash; whether her husband is listening or not &mdash; how intrusive you feel her husband&rsquo;s eavesdropping is and that you would like your conversations to be private. After that, it will be up to her to decide where to draw the line.</p><p>&copy; Universal Uclick 11/9