It seems we have a new Thanksgiving dilemma to mull over.
By Barbara Shelly
The Kansas City Star
It is this: Should your teenager be able to invite a date to dinner?
NBC apparently started the ball rolling with a report on this development, complete with comments from a family psychologist, who notes that a Thanksgiving date signifies that things are changing and the family needs to evolve. Hear that, family?
Others have weighed in, usually in a humorous way.
Last I heard, people in their teens and 20s dont really date. They hang out in packs and/or hook up. Has that changed? If so, perhaps we should be thankful that our teenagers are invested enough in a relationship to bring a date to Thanksgiving dinner.
But really, why on earth?
Why would any high school student apparently this is where it starts want to sit around watching football with a classmates eccentric uncle, then plow his or her way through a turkey dinner and a fraught family conversation?
According to the NBC piece, some couples start at one persons home, then move on to eat a second dinner with their partners family. Thats actually great news. A generation with that capacity for endurance is bound for great things.
Is this really a tremendously big deal, as the NBC psychologist opined? Only to parents, who tend to think it is all about us. Bringing a date into the family sanctum shouldnt be seen as a sign of rejection on the part of the teenager. Far better to look at it as a validation of what goes on in the family. Maybe Uncle Joe isnt as weird as weve made him out to be.