DEAR ABBY: Im 24 and a college graduate. My boyfriend, Jordan, and I have been together for a year and we would like to get married. However, my parents are against the idea. They love Jordan, but they think marriage is stupid because, in 2013, Who is getting married?
By JEANNE PHILLIPS
I think this is totally ridiculous, but I dont know what to do. I want to be married and I would love my parents approval, but its hard when they call me stupid for wanting to take that step just because their marriage didnt work out.
I love Jordan and I love my parents. Should I have to choose between the two? Totally Torn
DEAR TOTALLY TORN: You do not have to choose between your parents and being married. At 24, you are an adult and mature enough to make your own decision about the importance of the institution.
As to the question of who is getting married these days, one answer is people with college degrees are marrying at a greater rate than those with only a high school education and their unions are more lasting. Im sorry your parents marriage didnt work out, but you would be foolish to let their cynical opinion of this kind of commitment taint your perspective. I hope you and Jordan enjoy many happy and fulfilling years together.
DEAR ABBY: What are your thoughts about co-workers dating? I have a crush on one of my co-workers, and I believe it is reciprocated. Were unsure about an office romance because, while it isnt against the rules for people to date within the building, there are concerns about sexual harassment or inappropriate behavior on the premises. (Some of our co-workers have dated with no problems.)
Would it be wrong to attempt to further the relationship, as long as it remains appropriate within the office, or should I forget it and date someone outside of work? Working Relationship in Indiana
DEAR WORKING RELATIONSHIP: This may seem old-fashioned, but Im not crazy about the idea of office romances. While I know they are not uncommon and its hard to fight mutual attraction, office romances are distracting. When the pheromones are flying, it can be extremely difficult to concentrate on the tasks at hand. And if it doesnt work out, there can be tension, embarrassment and hard feelings in the aftermath, and thats not good for business.
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DEAR ABBY: Twice in the past month I have received thank-you notes for gifts I had given, but the wrong gift was mentioned. I usually spend a lot of time selecting just the right thing, and I take pride in my choices.
I understand how something like that could happen, but Im not sure what to do about it. Should I just keep quiet about it or say something to the person? What would I say? I dont want to embarrass anyone, but I know I have received gifts in the past that will forever remind me of the giver. Picking Out Presents in Pennsylvania
DEAR PICKING OUT PRESENTS: I see nothing to be gained by not alerting the person to the mistake. If you were thanked for the wrong gift, so was another giver. If I had mixed up the gift cards, I would want to know, wouldnt you? Do unto others
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