More and more mothers, whether they wear a wedding ring or not, are becoming their familys breadwinner.
By MARY SANCHEZ
The Kansas City Star
An analysis of 2011 U.S. Census data found that 40 percent of households rely on mom as the primary or sole breadwinner. Thats a massive increase from 1960, when the figure was a mere 11 percent.
This trend wont shock a lot of Americans. They already see it within their own homes or those of their neighbors. Plenty of mommies are better educated and better compensated than their husbands, and a growing numbers of daddies gladly accept that it is their duty, too, to change diapers and do carpool duty.
But here is the more sobering tale within the data: Nearly two-thirds of these sole or primary breadwinning women fit that description because they are the only one working in their households. These are primarily the single mothers. And they tend to be far less educated, and to be black or Hispanic. Their median household income was $23,000.
Compare that to the families studied where it was a married woman who earned more than her mate. Those homes had a median income of $80,000, well above the national median for all households of $57,100.
The most relevant message behind the study is not so much about marriage as about the growing economic divide in this country. If we understand that, we might just agree on policies that can address the problem.
Demographically, these single mothers are a growing and younger percentage of the population. They are the nations future, and its not a promising one.
Yet it is virtually impossible to bring up the topic of single mothers, whether in Congress or at the dinner table, without inviting a howling lecture.
Attitudes about poorer families feed into the politics of welfare reform, food stamp allocation, education grants, fair wage policy and child care subsidies.
Concern, when its genuine, is not misplaced. Moralizing doesnt help.
Its not the fact that these women are unmarried with children that drives their household poverty. Its their lack of education and too few jobs, including for the equally under-educated men who are most likely to marry them.
Those who wish to promote marriage often miss a truth about poorer mothers. The single mother without a college degree, and perhaps more so one without a high school diploma, might be making the best choice for her children by continuing to stay single. College-educated men arent exactly searching low-income areas to find a suitable spouse. The men who are more readily available to many of these single mothers the men they may have already partnered with to father their children tend to be of similar if not lower education levels.
And less-educated men have seen their real wages shrink along with job opportunities in the last 40 years, as Stephanie Coontz, director of research and public education at the Council on Contemporary Families, has pointed out.
Coontz also observes that stable single-parent households are better for childrens development than domestic situations in constant flux because of their mothers relationships, or homes where there is constant parental conflict.
So lets not pontificate about marriage or make false assumptions about mothers raising kids who arent living with a spouse.
If we ever resolve to turn the tide that is swamping Americans of modest means, well inevitably find that some policy gambits succeed and others are bound to fail. Have you noticed, though, that our political class isnt even trying? The naysayers are in control. Their message is that nothing can be done. They also happen to be the loudest moralizers.
We know where that will lead us because were already there.
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