DEAR ABBY: I live in Alaska and have good friends I visit every summer on the East Coast. I have some acquaintances and former co-workers who live there, too. Many of them want me to visit when I come down. I have grown apart from these former friends and keep in touch only through occasional emails and Facebook.
By JEANNE PHILLIPS
Flying from Alaska to the East Coast is expensive and time-consuming. I really just want to rest and hang out with the friends Ill be staying with. Even when I avoid posting pictures of my vacation on Facebook until after the trip, I get comments or emails about me not stopping by or letting them know I was in town.
Whats the polite way to tell these former co-workers and acquaintances that I dont want to spend my vacation time with them? Or should I just get over it and devote some time to them as well? Trying to Be Polite in Anchorage
DEAR TRYING TO BE POLITE: If you have any desire to continue the relationships with your former co-workers and acquaintances, why not arrange to meet a group of them at an agreed-upon place one afternoon for a reunion? If you dont, then either ignore their comments or respond to the emails by saying you needed to rest, which is the reason you didnt socialize more during your vacation.
Government offers health care kit
DEAR ABBY: When friends and family get together, the conversation often turns to the subject of health. They swap stories about the medications they may be taking and the lifestyle changes theyre making to improve their health. They look to each other for support and tips to get through the flu or a nasty case of food poisoning, and rely on each others experience to tackle challenges like quitting smoking, managing heart disease, diabetes, menopause or conquering insomnia.
To help your readers support their loved ones through these health issues and many more, the FDAs Office of Womens Health and the GSAs Federal Citizen Information Center have created the free Friends and Family Health Kit. It contains more than 20 publications that feature health care and prevention tips for women and their families. Marsha Henderson, FDA Assistant Commissioner for Womens Health
DEAR MARSHA: Your letter is timely because we are in the middle of Womens Health Week. Im always glad to receive your health kits because they are constantly being updated to reflect the latest information.
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